Daughter on the Pill.

[code1]

What age would you allow your daughter to go on the pill ?

[China Doll]

I was on the pill at the age of 14 but not because I was sexually active. It was used to treat acne and also PCOS (later diagnosed). Although I wasn't on the pill for the reason I've always had a natural inclination for getting in to trouble (wihtout really trying) so I suspect my mother was quite grateful for me being on it. It didn't make me want to rush out and have sex though and I suspect that I'd be classed as a late bloomer by the time I got round to all that.

I guess you're talking about being sexually active and on the pill, well does your daughter already have a boyfriend? If so, how long have they been together? Does she know about STD's etc... and that the pill won't protect her from those?

I think it would be hard to give an exact age, it depends on maturity, individual circumstances, perhaps even how badly behaved they are (some kids are going to do what they want regardless so in that respect I'd rather they were taking some precautions).

[EngTeach]

Hi code1,
I am not a a parent but have taught one too many 13 year old mothers. If I suspected there was a need for it I would let my daughter go on it regardless of her age. I know people will say this is condoning sex at too early an age, but whether she is on the pill or not a kid will do it if they want to. Of course I would discuss safe sex practices that guard against disease and pregnancy. I also would tell her about respecting herself and her body etc. As I said I am not a parent, but have had this same conversation with many, many female students. ( I also encourage them to communicate with their parent and doctor.)

[kira000]

I guess the question ou should really be asking yourself, is do you think not allowing her to take the pill, will really stop her engaging in sexual activity?

Generally it doesnt work that way, so surely it is better to allow her to go on the pill and have protection from pregnancy, but sit her down, and have a grown up chat as well, explaining why you are allowing it, but that sex sint something that needs to be rushed, and you trust her do do the right thing and be sensible and take precautions when she does think it is the right moment for her.

There is nothing like crediting a young adult with being a responsible adult, to make them feel responsible. Generally banning them from doing something makes them do it more..

My mother followed a similar tack with me, and told me she would prefer me to bring boys home than feel i couldnt- and guess what. I never felt the urge to take her up on the offer, and took my time..

Good luck!

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