Teenage daughter advice - again!!

[HJT40]

I have received so much good advice from people on here to do with my 13 year old daughter, I am hoping that I can ask for a little bit more.

I have been on my own with my daughter for what seems a long time, any relationships I have had have been kept away from the house until I am sure how it is going, thinking it not fair on her to meet someone who may not stay around. Anyhow, I have recently met a very lovely man, kind caring, to both me and my daughter and lives next door to us.

Recently, in the evenings she has been coming downstairs to say goodnight in a pair of shorts and a t-shirt, which her bra hangs out of the top of. What I am getting at is that I don't think what she is wearing is acceptable and I have asked her to put a dressing gown on. She has also taken to going in the garden to do handstands and goes for a run in the field out the back. This may not seem strange to some people, but it feels strange to me.

I am wondering a) whether she has developed a crush on him or b) wondering if she is trying to attact attention (if that is not the same thing). Anyhow something about it makes me feel very uncomfortable, but I don't want to make her feel awkward in her own home.

[elaine33]

It does sound like she is being a little bit attention seeking here. I would tell her that she should cover up and be a little more ladylike, ask her what she would feel like if you dressed like that when her friends came to visit, it might make her realise it is not acceptable. there is no need to make a big deal of it just mention it when she next comes down wearing skimpy clothes.

[HJT40]

Thank you Elaine. I will certainly try that.

[twinny-15]

I agree my daughter a single mum had the same situation happening as soon as she mentioned it ,it stopped a bit of attention seeking I think.

[Ice.Maiden]

Bless. The child's only 13, and if there's been just the two of you for quite a while, she probably IS seeking attention, but scared in case she'll suddenly be pushed into the background, sort of thing. Girls of that age often DO test out their sexuality though. I'd just ask her nicely to cover herself a little more, and then comment on how nice she looks when she dresses in a more reasonable fashion.