Hiya - Advice please

[Notveryhappy]

Hi there

I'm ten weeks pregnant with my first baby, so my hormones are all overthe place at the moment. My boyfriend it talking to me like rubbish all the time and it just seems like he has no respect for me what so ever, even tho' i'm carrying his baby and do everything for us both.i.e cleaning cooking, making the house nice for us. I work and so does he. We both want the baby, but we're just not getting on lately and it's getting me so down in the dumps. I feel tempted to just have an abortion and leaving.. I feel no other way out as if we carry on like this then i'll pnly be a single mother anyway and there is no way i'd be able to afford the baby on my own.

He has ADHD and so this doesn't help him with regards to his bad attitude, but i don't know how much more i can take. I feel as if i don't love him anymore cos of the way he talks to me and i dont want to even sleep with him anymore, again this causes a lot of friction.

I'm sorry to go on but i really need some advice before i make a wrong decision

Thanks

[bednobs]

was he such a wang before you got pregnant?

[Octavius]

Do you have anyone you can stay with a for a few days, get some space and air between you to think things through?

[sara3]

have you told him how you feel? if you're ready to be parents you must be grown up enough to talk it through. you have to decide if you could bring up this baby on your own, should the worst happen. no child will starve to death in this country unless the parents choose to let that happen. and children don't need the most expensive everything, they need to be loved and looked after.

and if you behave like a doormat, you'll be treated like one.

you need to talk to a good friend/relative/doctor also, before making any snap decision.

I wish you lots of luck.

[Notveryhappy]

He wasn't like that too much before i got pregnant. I think he may feel like i'm more inclined to stay with him now that I am pregnant cos it's his house that we live in.

I do want the baby and so does he, and im sure that if i was on my own i'd cope, but really wouldn't want it to come to that.

Every time i try and talk to him, he'll change the subject or totally turn it around on me. He always says sorry and sucks up for ages, but then does it again, so i know he probably doesn't mean it, i'm not sure.

I could stay at my mums buts its so much messing around cos there isnt enough space and stuff. Im trying to think of other things before it gets that far.

Thanks for the replies anyway, its appreciated

x