What does she mean?

[paul 1]

we met in a club and i was a little merry and she was sober , talked for about 1 hour went for a burger, exchanged numbers. got on really well and had a few laughs

txt back and forth that week and met up on the sunday afternoon. it was a hot day and she came over to mine and we went for drink. usual banter, she told me she had been in a relationship for about 6 years and her bf ended it about 4 months ago something to eat and then afterwards sat in the park, lots of non stop chatter and laughter, holding hands.

it was a great day got back to mine about 6, after being out since 1 somehow we ended up in my room and she said no to full sex. which was not a problem. as i said nothing will happen that she does not want to we carried on talking in my room and about 20 mins later she changed her mind and we you know


we got dressed in our own time and she left saying she had a grear day and thanks, i said the same

later on that eveing i sent a txt saying, sorry if i was out of order for anything that day and she said no all was ok the whole of that week she did not txt nor did i. so a week later i txt her and her reply was, sorry not looking for a relationship at mo. and will not keep in contact thanks again for a great day. the message ended with two xx. i replied that she maybe be confussed as i did not mention anything about a relationship anyway that was 3 weeks ago and i have not text and nor has she

my problem is that my head has been pumping nearly every day with thoughts of her and where did i go wrong or make a wrong move?

cannot see the problem staying in touch. should i txt her.leave it alone and deal with it good to know if i acted out of order, or she did not enjoy the sex or if she just wanted a sexual encounter as a 1 of

its not like i do not date others and shes the only ones in years

[know-ledge]

ha ha lol

[Jillius]

Don't get in touch. She maybe just testing you out. She'll get in touch if she wants to.

[unhappychick]

I think she enjoyed your company by the sounds of it, but then come to the realisation that she wasnt ready for this, her boyfriend finished with her after 6 years and she may be feeling fragile and wary of a new relationship. Why dont you call her and say you would like to remain friends regardless of a relationship or not?

[Postdog]

Hang on, have you read this?

You didn't mention a relationship, which whatever, she doesn't want, yet your head is pumping with thoughts of her. Bit of a contradiction don't you think.

[Rosetta]

He's in lurv lol!!!

[Eve]

Sounds like she just wanted a bit of a one off or wasn't ready for anything more than that.

Keep your pride and move on and find someone who does want to spend more time with you.

[y-cymro]

There's no harm in sending a friendly text - just saying hi. You should be able to tell from her reply if she's intersted in keeping in touch.

Ask her to feel free to give you a call sometime if she ever wants to chat,

[whiskeysheri]

Agree with y-cymro. One text isn't going to hurt, just don't push it if she doesn't respond or doesn't invite further texts. :)

[y-cymro]

That's twice in one day that someone's agreed with me.

When you're hot, you're hot!

[whiskeysheri]

Can't argue with that! :)

[Sgt.Rock]

Women are crazy mixed-up creatures.

[jkkerr]

If you haven't texted her already, keep it that way!

She doesn't want to hear from you. When she thanked you for a great day, again, she meant, "It was fun but I do not wish to see you again".

Trust me.

[paul 1]

thanks to you all for your replys. i still can't see why such a perfect day ended that way? i'm just really surprised by the way she has acted....i'm just a romantic at heart..

[Velvetee]

You had sex too soon. People just aren't willing to get to know each other a bit, before going the whole hog.

Sex can be a huge anti climax, all the flirtation and chatting is fun, but once the deed is done and you don't know each other that well, often it's the thought of, "well what else is there now". Also, if she has just come out of a relationship, then she probably doesn't want to rush into another, which may be the wrong for her, or she may be acting on the rebound.

See your time with her for what it was, just fun. She doesn't want it to go further at this time and is probably enjoying playing the field a bit, afterall, she was in a nightclub when you met and it's hardly the place to meet someone for a serious longterm relationship.