what do i do now? ( is this bulling )

[xxlizziexx]

well this is the follow up you could call it of my question beofre called "is this bulling?" first of all just want to say thankyou to everyone that answered very nice of you all : ). well yes it is me that this is happening to, is my ex best friend she has been doing it and we were very very close. i dont care and i dont want to care i really dont and i knowo if i cared it would hurt me alot more but even though i shrug it off and try really hard to not care and turn everything she says thats horrible intoo something postive i still get hurt. i dont know why. i just dont want to get hurt, insdie its really hurting me beacuse one by one shes getting to me more and more, i know my true friends will stick with me i know that but its still upseting to be hurt, i just split up with my boyfrind and that was a VERY painful and im still hurting from it i think its is so horrible and evil to do this all to me now when she nos im hurting still from the breakup, i just havent got a clue what to do, that is my question now, what do i do now? i cant tell on her, i cant just shrug it off even though it seems like i do she nos it still hurts me thats how close were, i just havent got a clue what to do, its just runing me at school please help thanx again xxlizziexx

[xxlizziexx]

to be honest, talking to her isnt going to work, i really really think that that isnt going to work, shes not that type of person, and if i talk to her she will jsut laugh back in my face, shes that type of person, thats why its so hard to fix this situation, i know today, im hopfully going to go to my head of year adn talk to them and see what they say, and i might tell my mum tonight depending on how bad she is today, deary me! thanx all for your posts, lots of love lizzie xx

[natalie_1982]

Let us know how it goes with your year head and if you decide to tell your mum!

Why don't you show your mum this post? 

And I'm sorry but I have to disagree with those who have said to ignore the girl - that's ridiculous!  Have you ever been to school?  Do you realise what kids and teenagers can be like?  You only need to watch the news and read the papers to see the amount of children and teenagers committing suicide because they ignored problems like these.  I was bullied and picked on at times throughout school, and even now as a young adult I have come into contact with bullies in the work force, and the only advice I can give is, in one form or another, stand up to them!  If that means telling them yourself to get lost, or going to a parent, teacher, friend, boss, etc then do it!

I also don't see the point in trying to talk to this girl as she obviously isn't worth the effort.  She needs help, and as long as she is pushing her good friends (you lizzie!) away then why stoop to her level?  Why cause yourself more pain by making contact with her via telephone or letter.  I think a letter especially would be bad as she would then have something to laugh about and show everyone else to laugh at.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do!

[Casey]

I totally agree with natalie

[smudge]

Natalie - I did say ignoring her is easier said than done.

Lizzie - After reading your last post, if this girl really has an unreasoning character, perhaps a letter wouldn't be a good idea.

I would stick to what I suggested in both my previous posts - don't do anything untill you've spoken to your parents or teacher. But do it sooner than later. Good luck. -x-

[Bottom]

Hi lizzie just read the follow up, I have to agree with natalie, you should tell your mum so she can support you. My sister was bullied for years, again the school was not much help, my mum told my sister every time the bully hits her and she doesn't hit her back, My mum will hit her, the next day my sister battered the bully and was never bullied again. I am not saying for you to do that, I think yours is more verbal than phisacal(cant spell either.) It will past, But you must try to stand up for youself or she will walk all over you, Because she thinks you will not do anything about it, Shock her!! I really hope things get better, And you sound like a lovley person who does not derseve these kind of treatment. Good Luck xx

[xxlizziexx]

i took your advice and told the school everyone, and told my mum, the school says this is bulling, and the next time i go adn see them with my answer ( its up to me if they talk and find out without talking to krissi or talk to krissi face to face ) and if she has said/done anything "new" then they HAVE to take action beacuse its bulling, i also found out she has been going there to, but to be honest i think the school know that she is bulling me and belive like me more than her beacuse thats what they basicly said, so, she might have a bully file soon, which i feel a bit mean but i dont really have much control of and they are also going to look at her file and see if she has done this before etc, so thankyou all for your help, this is the tough bit, actully sorting it all out now! thanx all for your help. you all gave me the courage to go adn actully tell someone and it made me realise how bad the situation is, thank you all, and i mean it : )
love you all lizzie xx

[natalie_1982]

Well done lizzie!

It'll be all worth it in the end although it doesn't feel like that now, at least you've done the hard part and told someone.  You should be really proud of yourself, it takes guts to do what you're doing.  Hang in there and keep us updated on what's going on!  XXX

[smudge]

Well done Lizzie - As I said in my first reply on your other thread, keeping it to yourself could make you ill.

Now you've shared it with someone else at school, I'm sure you'll start to feel a great sense of relief. Good luck to you now & in the future. -x-

[xxlizziexx]

guess what!?!?!?!
krissi said sorry to me! just when i was up for shouting and getting it all sorted out, she goes and says sorry, hmm i guess it was good, im guessing the school told her that she would get a bully file if she didnt stop, but if she says one thing to me that is out of line ive been told to telll lol so i will but i doubt that wil happen, well thank you all for your help and getting me though it all : ) im trying to fix all the pieces back together again : ) thank you all again lizzie xx

[smudge]

Hi Lizzie, I am so pleased for you. You must be feeling on cloud nine! Have a nice week-end -x-

[FP]

Well done xxx