rant!!!

[haycal2008]

I have woken up this mornin and i feel like crap had a crap nights sleep! ex BF working all weekend so i am here feeling like SH.T wiv a very active 2.5 year old. He usually has him on a weekend.



So ex bf sugested calling in the mother in law to come for a few hours so i can rest! I said to him you can try but she wont! She never does NOTHING for us!!! She cums and sees callum once a week - well it should b once a week but has turned out to be more like once a fortnight just latetly as she is ALWAYS "poorly"!



Anyway he rang and asked her and guess what "she cant" more like she cant b arsed! I only ever ask for her help when it is needed but the answer is ALWAYS no! She dont work so its not like she has to go to work! I am really pi$$ed off. My mom dont do that much for us but she does loads more than she does and goes to work!



My ex bf's dad is a total ass aswell he has only seen cal twice in 2.5 years, and never EVER comes and sees him. I fetch my ex bf's mom when she decides she wants to come so he has no excuse not to!



I am so fed up, what am i gona do when no2 comes along and i feel like crap! i know stuggle cuz i aint asking her for nothing EVER again!!!

[Sachs]

Hi hay - Get yourself out with the little one. You might not feel like it but it will make you feel better! xxx

[haycal2008]

been out all morning since 8am!! just come back to feed cal and try and get him to have a sleep, to no avail so far. i really am shattered today feel sick and i have had enough!

Thanks for replying thou x

[zzxxee]

your lucky your ex bf has your child every weekend some mums like me have their kid 24/7 cos ex bf has not seen their child in around 3 years so look at the positives not the negatives make the most of your free time you lucky girl

[haycal2008]

I dont think of myself as lucky at all its his son aswell, he is supportive so thats good but i believe kids should see BOTH parents as much as they can wheather they are together or apart! Just cuz i gave birth to him doesnt mean he is soley my resposibility it took 2 to tango, he is as much my ex's as he is mine! feel sorry 4 you thou if you doit all on your own cuz it is hard work xx

[zzxxee]

it is hard work but it gets easier as they get older your child is at the toddler stage very difficult have you thought about 50/50 custody with your ex?

[terambulan]

You're feeling quite sorry for urself haycal2008.

The sooner you accept u r totally responsible for the babes care the better you will feel. Be thankful u have healthy beautiful children, be proud of them and u show them to the world and how to go on. They will be ur constant companians for at least the next 12yrs. Read a story to your youngen, go for a walk and meet others, shop - plenty to excite a 2y old in supermarket.

Don't be bothered with other's help........you'll find, when ur independant of them they'll be bothering you to share ur babes.......that's revenge!

[haycal2008]

That just aint possible he works away in banbury monday-thursday, he collects him on a friday and drops him back home on a sunday tea-time, it works quite well usually but as i say he is working this weekend so he hasnt had him.

Thats fine i aint got a problem wiv that, just not feeling to well and he suggested the support ov his mother which i knew she wouldnt do cuz she never has done anything for us even when we were together!

i cope fine looking after my son all week dont have an issue with him at all he is hard work but as you say its these toddler years!!

[Tups]

I realise how difficult it is, bringing up young children on your own; my daughter is a single mum and finds it very difficult at times. I think you could make things psychologically better for yourself by accepting the fact you are on your own with no reliable help. You will feel much better if you can get rid of that feeling of resentment, which will always drag you down. Can you manage to organise a playschool place for your active toddler? If only for a couple of sessions each week? Having reliable time to yourself would be a great boost. Remember that this is probably the most difficult age and it will soon pass. It's also the most impressionable age for a child and it's important for him to have a happy, well balanced, contented mummy if he is going to develop properly himself. Good luck.

[zzxxee]

you say your not feeling well but have had the strenghth to go on your computor we all get off days its part and parcel of being a parent deal with it..