Meltdown

[buzybee]

today, my life just came to an halt and i had a total meltdown. i couldnt go to work i couldnt eat or drink and i cud'nt even get out of bed!

it all started when my cousin rang me last night (as an only child myself shes the closest thing i have to a sister) to tell me she is 8weeks pregnant. I couldnt talk for a few moments but in the end just congratulated her and so on.

I've been trying for a baby for the past year and recently my doctor put me on Clomid to help the process along but so far....nothing. Everywhere i turn i see pregnant women sometimes i smile hoping thats going to be me soon but more times i just die inside. its funny i decieded to get my hair done last week to cheer myself up and when i was brought over from the wash basin a heavily pregnant girl was cutting my hair, her belly kept rubbing off my shoulder, god it was hell! my partner just laughed and said i was just hormonal that it would be us soon. but i cant help thinking will i ever be pregnant again?

my little girl is 5 and starting school in a few weeks and is always asking when can she have a brother or sister.

my cousin is coming in to see me at the weekend and i just dont know what to say to her im afraid ill breakdown and its the last thing i want to happen im so happy for her but there's a green eyed monster inside that is so jelouse!

[dustysmum]

you poor thing ! why dont you try being honest with her if you are that close im sure you can talk it over and it might help both of you

[redcrx]

i agree, sit down and tell her how you feel, im sure she'll understand

Having a daughter already you know your body knows what to do and usually couples need to have tried 2 years before medical help is given so perhaps you need to just try and calm down and wait a while. Stress is not going to help you fall pregnant, im sure you know, so try not to be calmer about the situation

good luck

[MiniN]

you're under alot of stress at the moment, so you obviously need to talk to someone. could you talk to your partner about how your feeling?

i'm not sure its a good idea if you tell your cousin because you might be putting her in an awkward position and she might think twice about being around you whilst shes pregnant if she knows its upsetting to you.

your not alone in this, you have you partner. tell him how you feel. if your stressing about things, then that will make getting pregnant even harder (so I've heard).

it will happen in time. you've already done it once (your daughter), so it shows you can do it, its just a matter of time!

[Im a BusyBee]

i know exactly how you feel ive been there. It took 7 years, with me having 4 miscarriages over that time before i had my daughter - then 14 months later my son was born. It was hell over those years, i cant offer any advise as such apart from just carry on with your life and try not think about it - something that is impossible to do i know, but hang on in there and it will happen.

[4getmenot]

Is it your cousins first, if so you could be helping her having been through it all before. I'm sorry you are having trouble falling pregnant again but you cant get yourself down, you have a 5 yr old you need to get out of bed, eat you are responsible for another now. Some people arent even lucky enough to have one. Be there for your cousin relax and it will all be ok. xx

[buzybee]

thanx evry1 i do feel a bit better today, thanx for your kind words of encouragement, i had a talk with my partner last night i let it all out, how i felt and that, and i feel way better.

:)

[redcrx]

glad you feel a bit better today buzybee. Hope your partner was understanding and a comfort