Why am i never happy?

[sazzle84]

Why is it that I can meet a guy and be having a great time one minute but then find him the most irrating person in the world the next.

I don't mean to sound nasty but suddenly the smallest things start annoying me eg his laugh, the shape of his nose etc. It happens every time. Its like i get to month 3 of a relationship and then i get bored!!!

I don't want to keep doing this. Does anyone else have same prob?

[4getmenot]

The problem is you go out looking for the perfect guy. 1. they dont exist, 2. you should never go out looking, let them come to you. Maybe you have some insecurity or something thats subconsioualy telling you you dont want a relationship. Are you happy with yourself?

[RevFunk]

I think you just need a slap/proper seeing to

lol

When the right person comes along you wont feel any of that

[sazzle84]

That sounds exactly right.

Yeah I am happy with myself. Infact i'm loving life just now just wish i could stop doing this. The current bloke is besotted with me and I feel like such a nasty person for having these feelings

[4getmenot]

Do you think you need a bloke though? This is it you know deep down you dont but think its the norm to have one so are going out knowingly trying to find things to make them wrong for you

[sazzle84]

Ha ha cheers RevFunk

[RevFunk]

Trust me no-one has been out with more women that me lol and I used to be exactly the same until that special one appears.

[sazzle84]

I love the single life but get bored of that too. Had been single for a few months when I met the current lad and we have been having a great time. Maybe i just need to spend less time with him. He wants to spend all his time with me whereas i like my own space.

[4getmenot]

I had that problem with my bloke when we first got together, he wanted to be round all the time and I was that used to be with a git that never wanted to see me that it was kind of smothering, but now we do our own thing and I've never been happier

[theglove]

you sound like my ex wife!! lol

[boogieboogie]

I remember a friend dumped her fella because his jeans went up the crack of his ar$e.. that was enough to put her off him.
I too have been like this, and what I recenly realised is that its the very thing that attracted me to them that becomes the very thing I despise about them. I've only ever been attracted by personality and it's never worked. So I've made a conscious decision to go solely on physical attraction next time (if there is one).
It's horrible I know how you feel. I even once took the step of making a list of all the things I liked about this guy so I could refer back to it & be reminded of those qualities when the 'irritation' kicked in.. but it didnt' work.

[WhiteBear]

sazzle84

i have that problem all the time!! thats prob why im single most of the time! least u get to experiment other type of guys until u find the one that tick all the boxes!! :)

the last guy only ticked a couple of my boxes out of 15 lol thats prob why it never lasted.... oh well ...im still looking...

[123everton]

It's called being young.
When love comes to town you'll forgive all those little nuances.
You can't fight it, the heart wants what it wants, you'll instinctively know when something's right....

[sazzle84]

Thanks for all your comments. Its good to know that I'm not the only one like this. All my friends think I'm mad!

[andrea81]

I just think you havent found the right person yet.

I know it's not quite the same but I hate being hugged and couldn't stand getting close to others, but when my hubby came along, I felt 100% ok with him hugging me! He and my kids are the only ones who can!

So I guess like me, you just need to find the right one!

x x x

[tinglepie]

u r shallow

[sazzle84]

U've hit the nail on the head there Raggy Roman lol

[sazzle84]

3 days!!!! Ha ha. That is bad.