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cant afford i a family
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i know i am young but me and my fiance really want to start a family. But the thing is, i am in college and only work part time and he is a car valetter with a very low wage and we just cant afford a baby at the moment. we live together and just about manage rent and bills but want to be able to give a child everytrhing it need. its getting me really down, i just want to start a family.
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Are you not telling your age, because you know really it's not a good idea to start a family yet, at your age?
Maybe the people who are advising you to start a family now before it's too late, don't realise how young you are. And you don't want to tell them, because at the moment they are telling you what you want to hear.
Maybe the people who are advising you to start a family now before it's too late, don't realise how young you are. And you don't want to tell them, because at the moment they are telling you what you want to hear.
Youre right jaidey, you didnt say you needed an expensive pram.
You said you "want everything to be the best, eg �300-400 prams lol"
Needing something is greatly different to wanting something.
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we just cant afford a baby at the moment. we live together and just about manage rent and bills but want to be able to give a child everytrhing it need"
with the way bills are increasing, your lack of work once baby arrives and the sudden end of schooling where will money come from to even buy the basics? and dont say benefits, at some point they will stop.
Ethel is right, your hormones are trying to control you, dont let them. Stay at college, get a good job and rethink in a few years.
You said you "want everything to be the best, eg �300-400 prams lol"
Needing something is greatly different to wanting something.
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we just cant afford a baby at the moment. we live together and just about manage rent and bills but want to be able to give a child everytrhing it need"
with the way bills are increasing, your lack of work once baby arrives and the sudden end of schooling where will money come from to even buy the basics? and dont say benefits, at some point they will stop.
Ethel is right, your hormones are trying to control you, dont let them. Stay at college, get a good job and rethink in a few years.
I think the fact that you're asking such a big question on a website indicates that you are not ready for parenthood.
get a cat. when you have a huge vet bill and have cleaned poop off the carpet a few times.. you'll still be nowhere near knowing what having a child really means.
personally, I'd suggest this is another "greenie" question.
get a cat. when you have a huge vet bill and have cleaned poop off the carpet a few times.. you'll still be nowhere near knowing what having a child really means.
personally, I'd suggest this is another "greenie" question.
I'm not surprised to see you are 16.
As I said, it is your hormones raging. This is how nature ensures we reproduce.
You can be a slave to your hormones or take control of your life. Have fun, get an education, a career, some experience.
Then get settled in your own home with someone you really love then start to plan for a baby.
That is the very best start you can give your babies.
As I said, it is your hormones raging. This is how nature ensures we reproduce.
You can be a slave to your hormones or take control of your life. Have fun, get an education, a career, some experience.
Then get settled in your own home with someone you really love then start to plan for a baby.
That is the very best start you can give your babies.
i have to admit 16 IS rather young. you've got your whole 20's to have kids and be a family, but things like going out with friends, your not old enough to do that and enjoy it.
in reality once a baby is there it doesnt go away and rules over your whole life. But you should do whatever is right for you, and no doubt you will in the end
and Jaidey i really dont think anyone was having a go, they were jsut giving opinions based on experience- which is what you asked for
in reality once a baby is there it doesnt go away and rules over your whole life. But you should do whatever is right for you, and no doubt you will in the end
and Jaidey i really dont think anyone was having a go, they were jsut giving opinions based on experience- which is what you asked for
sorry cazz!
i thought you were about 18 which is a bit different to 16. i dont think there is anything wrong with having children young, nature actually intends us to have them in our late teens, early twenties and that is when some of us have an overwhelming urge to have children. I was like you and always wanted children, even at your age, but did not really want one until i had fallen in love and i was 20 then. i have to say that i am glad now i had my first child in my early twenties rather than at 16. i still had a lot of partying to do up until then. and i even went travelling at 19. having a child is the most amazing and wonderful thing you will ever do, but the things i did in those years before were amazing too and i have precious memories from that time. you are lucky you have met someone whom you are happy with so make the most of the next 2 or 3 years together, have lots of fun then start thinking about having children.
i thought you were about 18 which is a bit different to 16. i dont think there is anything wrong with having children young, nature actually intends us to have them in our late teens, early twenties and that is when some of us have an overwhelming urge to have children. I was like you and always wanted children, even at your age, but did not really want one until i had fallen in love and i was 20 then. i have to say that i am glad now i had my first child in my early twenties rather than at 16. i still had a lot of partying to do up until then. and i even went travelling at 19. having a child is the most amazing and wonderful thing you will ever do, but the things i did in those years before were amazing too and i have precious memories from that time. you are lucky you have met someone whom you are happy with so make the most of the next 2 or 3 years together, have lots of fun then start thinking about having children.
