Sleeping in same room

[lez632]

is there a law for children over a certain age sayin they can not sleep in the same room?
children of opposite sex who are not related.

[dannyday5821]

firstly - why the hell would there be a law!?

secondly - im sure i asked a similiar question here once, and found to my surprise that "apparently" kids aged 8 + should have their own room "legally"...i think...dont take my word for it...anyway, thats supposed to be in relation to kids who are related and live in the same house.

thirdly - why do you ask? when i was a kid my cousin emma used to come and visit we used to sleep in the same room. we were the same age, plus there was my sister, two years younger than us. ah the good ol' days! we had so much fun then! i remember we used to mess about endlessly recording stupid voices on a tape recorder!

sorry im drifting off topic...

[terambulan]

No law I'm aware of.....what about 'sleep-overs' etc.

If there was such a law the Gov would have responsibility for re-housing the families......can't see them wanting that problem.

[redcrx]

if there was a law then there would be a lot of familes who cant afford larger houses being fined or whatever the outcome would be.

If you dont want your children sharing rooms then buy a bigger house. Personal choice.

[Ethel]

It is all explained very nicely here:

http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/advic e_topics/repairs_and_bad_conditions/overcrowdi ng


If two or more people of opposite sex have to share a room then it is not overcrowding if all but one is under 10.

[JockSporran]

Of course not.

[lez632]

Think I Should make myself a bit more clearly on this subject as the answers are not related to the question I�ve asked.
My x partner has our 10 year old daughter once a week to sleep over; he has a new partner who has a 11 years old son.
My x sleeps there on a Saturday night & our daughter & her son sleep in the same room, to me this is wrong as children of this age tend to explore different ways of life. They have sex education at school at this age so they may want to try out what they have been taught?
So it�s not a question of overcrowding, re-housing or can�t afford it.

[Beanmistriss]

I would say that if your daughters quite happy with the situation then you should leave well alone. If shes not then perhaps she could ask to sleep on the couch/sitting room floor. Anything else may be seen as an attempt by you to try and have some kind of control or to make things difficult for your ex and cause problems in his new relationship. Just my opinion :)

[lez632]

Well all the answers i've had so DO NOT RELATE to the question i asked.

[thishells73]

hi les632.
i dont know if this will help you out or not....
but when me and my brother were 10yrs old we had to have seperate bedrooms. My mum said that was the "councils rule" and it was something to do with girls hitting puberty as some girls start periods around this age ( i know i did)..my mum doesn't know if it's a law or not....
I have a daughter of 9 and a step son of 12 and when he stays in the holidays he sleeps downstairs BUT thats his choice he dont want to stay in a "girly room" but occasionally he has slept in the bedroom but he looks upon my daughter as a sister and nothing else. I know it can be a worry cause i was doubious at first but then i think its down to personal choice. And like someone said before your ex might see it as you trying to control the situation i know your anxious in this so my advice is find your local CAB. or phone your local council office they should be able to help you in either direction.
Good luck and try not to worry about them trying out sex education what they do learn sometimes puts them off...

[redcrx]

i thought bean mistress gave an answer that did relate to what youd asked.

The other replies may not have related but then you didnt actually give a full question in your first post.

If this is your Exes house then can you not ask that he put the boy up in the lounge or in his room when they stay over. But as beanmistress says, if your daughter is not bothered by it then it may just be seen as you trying to makie things awkward.

[redcrx]

"They have sex education at school at this age so they may want to try out what they have been taught?" did you try it out as soon as you learnt what it was? If you didnt then why are you worried that your daughter will?

[joannewatson]

I dont have an answer for you but just wanted to post as I do not think anyone seems to understand you. I used to have my neice over a lot and my husbands son used to stay over at the same time. When they were very young it was fine, she stayed in the bed and he stayed on a blow up bed in the same room. Once they got to around 10 I stopped having my neice over at the same time because i did not think it was right for kids of the opposite sex who are not related to sleep in the same room at this age. Kids are becoming much more aware earlier these days. I know it can be difficult if there is no room but i would not be comfortable with the situation.

[lez632]

At last someone seen it from my side & I have sort of got an answer to my question.
Joannewatson & thishells73 are hitting the point. But I would just like to point out that I am not trying to control the situation when it comes 2 my x. we have been split up for years But wouldn�t any of you lot worry if your son or daughter at the age of 10 was sleeping in the same room with a boy or girl that they have only known for 4 months? If not? then there is something wrong.
Even my partner understands how worrying it can be, he does not let his son sleep in the same room as my daughter when he stays.
Redcrx this is NOT about me
Redcrx, This is not about can�t afford it or buying a new house, (I have a 5 bedroom house by the way, so I got plenty of room & no this house has nothing to do with my X)
JockSporran, odversely don�t care.
Ethel, this is nothing to do with council.
Terambulan, children of that age don�t usually have mixed sleep over�s.
dannyday5821, YES there should be a law

[terambulan]

When I answered ur question I wasn't aware of the age of the children concerned.

[dannyday5821]

okay lez632 - i do see your point. i mean, i dont have kids in fairness, but for me personally i wouldnt see a problem. i do understand what some people have said about kids being alot more "informed" and clued up about things at the ages of 10 and 11 - but with all due respect - a) - what do you expect is gonna happen? what are they gonna do start having sex? serioulsy, from my point of view i think your over reacting. but ill admit, different people, different views, different opinions. i dont agree with "over protecting" though, or "over worrying" - which in my opinion, i think you and your partner are. besides, sleeping in the same room doesnt even mean that much - i had my "first experiences" with a girl outside in the middle of a field - no adults to protect us there. some people need to learn to just let life take its course. if i was you, id just ask the kids themselves. but hey thats me. no disrespect meant to yourself though. like i said, my thoughts are only hyperthetical, i dont have kids, and perhaps one day when/if i do, i might find myself asking the same question as yourself.