Friends or Foes... Or more?

[torn-in-two]

Heey... Lately, Well not so much lately as to for a long time I have felt like I was getting lonelier and lonlier these days... Old " friends " I have realised have only ever used to when they needed me and don't wanna be around me when theres nothing im properly needed for.. I have broke up with my boyfriend who I love dearly, But Hurt from past experiences of that has happened between us gradually seemed to be creeping up on me.. and then suddenly I couldn't take it anymore... My own best friend has even started being sly and acting different... And knowing how upset I am at the moment, I thought she would of had a little more consideration for my feelings... Last night, I ended up on my own walk and who did I end up talking to and walking around with spilling my heart out to? But my ex ! Me and Him are still friends, kindve but because we still have feelings for eachother its hard to be Just friends... I Feel as though no matter what has happened he will always be there for me... pretty much because he always has been ( I was with him for a year and a half but know him over two years ) I don't know what to do... I want to be with him but I know I shouldn't be at the moment, The hurt from the stuff that has happened between us keeps cropping up and I can easily get angry and very sad... Any idea's on if anyone thinks I should just give it another try with my ex or Should I just leave it alone?... Any idea's will be appreciated greatly ! x.x.x

[stonekicker]

i tend never to go back...is just the way i am built i guess. this applies to all aspects of life, including love. i am also a firm believer of things always working out in the end - you just have to keep trying and telling yourself that. things will change and get better, but you also have to make the effort. try new things, go new places and maybe learn something new - all great ways to meet people and make things better. i also think it is better to be alone and a bit miserable than surrounded by fickle and/or draining 'friends'. it sounds like you are finding changes difficult, but that is to be expected - we are creatures of habit, after all! try new stuff and see what it brings you. good luck x

[pmorris1961]

i believe that sometimes if you dont know what to do , do nothing.....................

if he is the one, then a bit of a gap wont hurt.................

What you dont say is far more interesting than what you do say of course, you may be too clingy....................in the back of your mind, perhaps you are actually wanting to be with him because you are scared of being alone.............one bird in the hand etc etc.

You said it, "but i know i shouldnt be with him at the moment"

Listen to your self.........have faith in yourself and dont settle cos your scared..........there is someone out there for you and you will meet him when you have got rid our YOUR OWN bagage................................ either that you will miss him cosyou will be with the wrong man

[MiniN]

be apart for at least 3 months - with no contact. concentrate on making yourself happy. if it is still meant to be, then you will get back together.

You sound like you've made up your mind already as pmorris says.

as for your friend, ask her whats up and tell her you need some support from her at the moment. if she is your friend then you will be able to talk about things and sort it out with her.

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