love and marriage

[bubbles4920]

my fiancee has upset me by saying that he wont love me any more than he does now when we are married. am i being touchy? what are your views on this? i personally think that i will love him more because of the vows and commitment i have shown on the day of our marriage.

[luckyman]

can u really not see wot hes is saying to u ???? he loves u with all his heart now,, and is saying that whole heartedly!!!

[bednobs]

perhaps he loves you the most he possibly can now? perhaps he just dosen't have the capability to love you more?
perhaps hes just rubbish at looking into the future and knowing exactly how he will feel?

[888sally888]

I actually think that is romantic - he obviously cant imagine loving you more than he already does - lucky you!

[jake-the-peg]

I'd be a little concerned about your expectations of marriage.

I still can't believe it but I'm coming up to my 20th wedding anniversery this year.

We did live together for a year or two before we got married (If you haven't it might be different) but things don't really change that much after the big day. In fact there can be a bit of an anti-climax. You've spent so long focussing on the day that when it's gone you lack that focus.

Children are different, nothing is ever the same after that ever.

[Ethel]

I don't want you to be buying the wrong birthday card - he is your fianc�, and you are his fianc�e.

He's going to be think you don't really love him all that much now, if you can love him more later.

[4getmenot]

to me marriage wouldnt change a thing, but then I love my bloke even more day by day

[mirela]

some men scared of marriage, like my bf, he would worry what gonna happen if divorced before he thinking of a marriage!!
i cant see there much you need worry about tho, you are thw two will give big commitment to each other, if you love each other much now, a marriage or a wedding wont change anything.

[R1Geezer]

listen bubbles, the bloke love's you max already, that's what he's saying!

The wisdom of the geezer is strong today

[JockSporran]

I'm with you on this one, bubbles. Simple as that. My wife is still my girlfriend even though we're married 20-odd years, that doesn't change, but we both remember the thrill after we got married when we realised we were 'family'.

[monkeyeyes]

I often say to Mrs M, "I love you twice as much as yesterday, but only half as much as tomorrow".............

Your chap obviously means that he feels, as bednobs and R1Geezer, have said that he is 'full-up' already and can't imagine that he has any further capacity for his love for you.

He will, though; he just doesn't know it yet. :o)

[leggysback]

Unless you end up as one of the growing number of divorces?
Who can tell ?
Lifes sometimes a gamble , so why waste time worrying about that and just enjoy yourselves together , for as long as that is .