stroppy dad

[dannyday5821]

well can you believe that!? my dads been made redundant this friday...

so i said when ive got time off why dont we go paintballing together? me and my dad have never really been close at all. :( i didnt even get the "how to shave" lesson! not that im bothered! but anyway - i was thinking how we've never really connected or anything the other day, so i thought why not try doing something with him now he's got all this time off.

And what response do i get? imagine a 2 year old having a tantrum. Im not kidding. I couldnt believe it! I dont want to but i feel like saying sod ya then! My mum said that she'll make him go - but whats the point of that?

he'll go cuz he's forced to - he wont wanna be there and he wont say but he'll be moaning about the cost all the time. Ill feel uncomfortable being with him cuz i know he was forced to go and it'll all be a waste of time. so much for bonding then eh?

anyone else have this happen to them before? is there anything else i could try to do with my dad?

[CheekyChops]

I know you were just trying to get some time with your dad but he is probably very worried about finding another job and how he will pay for everything if he doesn't get one.

It can be very stressful being made redundant and wondering if you will ever get another job. Maybe he has big bills to pay or debts that you don't know about.

I know he shouldn't have thrown a strop with you but he probably didn't mean it, he is just worried.

[4getmenot]

I guess paintballing is last thing on his mind right now after being made redundant. As cheekychops said you're were probably trying to cheer him up, but I can see why he would be upset at the moment.

[sallybowles]

I should leave it for a couple of weeks, let him get his head around the redundancy first. In your own way you probably feel sorry for him losing his job at his age, and you must admit it will be hard for him to find something else.
Offer to take him to some sporting thing he is interested in, football or car racing or something. It would also be a nice gesture for you to offer to pay for him or just buy the tickets and say 'hey dad, do you fancy this?'

[redcrx]

i agree with others, hes probably under a lot of pressure right now and worried sick, paintballing isnt really going to help.

why dont you offer to help him get a cv together and then perhaps take him out for a quick pint or something and let him talk. Dont push him

[4getmenot]

or you can swap your dad for mine and redcrx brother :-) Then you'll see what a strop is :-)

[Hermia]

I would leave him for a couple of weeks and then just be nice to him. Being made redundant is just awful. It has only happened to me once and it is like being punched in the stomach. Not only do you immediately start worrying about money, but you also start to question your self-worth. You kind of go into shock. Maybe once he has got over the shock and starts talking about looking for another job you could offer to help? Perhaps by looking online if he is not particularly techy? Then you could introduce the idea of going paintballing.

[cazzz1975]

being made redundant can be devastating, Im not surprised he didnt want to go, give him some time to get his head around the new situation before you pester him for day trips.

[4getmenot]

tetjam you never cease to amaze me

[daniela31]

tetjam you disgusting little.....

[redcrx]

ah but would it cheer him up raggy? doesnt seem to have done much for tetjam :)

[Tups]

I think it's you, not he, who is acting like a 2 year old. Why on earth should your dad want to go paint balling, especially when he's feeling very miserable about being made redundant. He needs time to wallow and to adjust. Just be there quietly in the background for him. I remember only too well what Life was like for my family when my dad was made redundant. He didn't have work for 18months. His self respect hit rock bottom and my mum, after several months of being patient, eventually flipped. It's a very difficult time for him and will be for the whole family, if he doesn't find something else soon. Don't add to his problems by seemingly brushing them aside and expecting him to do crazy things!