My hate for my own Mum

[nicxy]

How do i ever forgive my mother for betraying me, not just once but many times.
she still thinks everything is ok between us, but i hate her witha passion, not a nice woman at all.

[daffy654]

Rather than try to get over it you should just accept it.I have with my mum who has betrayed me more times than anyone could ever imagine........starting with putting me into care at age 3 months then having me home and placing me back into care repeatedly until age 16(amongst many other things I won't mention on here).

[Lil O'lady]

Daffy's right, you've got to move on. You did not choose her as a mother and so rather than focusing on your hatred, focus on enjoying the rest of your life.

[catcuddler]

nicxy i feel exactly the same.there are only so many times you can allow someone to hurt you and try to break you mentally before you say enough is enough.my mum has hurt me countless times and in the end i decided it wasnt worth the hurt for a small amount of attention.its very hard initially but you will realise in the end you are better off without her and she will want you first.
good luck in you futurexxx

[Ice.Maiden]

I don't know how any mother worth her salt could betray and hurt her children, so I found this a sad post, but I agree with the other replies. You couldn't choose your mum nicxy, so I think it's time to move forward and try and forget - whatever the reasons your mum had for doing what she did - by making a good and happy life for yourself.

[kat83]

it must be so hard for you, i have thankfully been lucky and have a supportive mother. my only advice is that you learn from her mistakes and give your children everything you never had....love, support etc. some people are just wired differently and it must be awful when those closet let you down. be strong and do what is right for you xx

[pinktwink]

you may never forgive her but you do need to move on spending your time hating her just leaves you with unending feelings of anger. There are some things we just cant change so there is no point wasting energy on them. Try talking to your mum. ?I bet she has her reasons for doing whatever she did that made you feel betrayed. Not too excuse her but understanding where she is coming from may help you

[nicxy]

Thank you all for your replies, How ever much i'd love to say what she has done and said to me, its hard!! I feel at the moment i am stuck in anger mode, and my children and partner is sufferig from it. i will of course try and change things. I'm suppose to getting married in 18 days time, I really don't want her there- I'm just not strong enough to tell her- i feel she has some sort of power over me. ty all for replies.

[joannie10]

could your partner tell her not to come on your behalf or another family member. good luck with the wedding, try to be happy and dont let your children suffer x

[Tups]

Remember, people can only make you angry and resentful if you empower them to do so. Decide that from now on, YOU are in control. Even if she ends up coming to your wedding, know that she has ceased to mean anything to you and so her presence won't adversely affect you. Have a great day.

[boogieboogie]

It's really strange isn't it, no matter how much she may hurt you, you can't hurt her. I wonder if this is because you arn't able to show that you are an emotional person to her, the times she betray you did you let her know how you felt? Or pretend it didn't bother you. If this is the way it is, it's why you can't tell her you don't want her at your wedding because she has stripped you of demonstrating emotions to her, and not wanting her their is showing her that things do bother you.. If that makes sense. Call her and tell her the wedding is off just before she sets off to attend.