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tigwig, I'm sorry for your loss, I realise how this sounds silly to you because of what you went thru with your MIL.
There really is no bad atmosphere between us, she just has nothing to say, not even to her son. I've even tried not seeing her so that my partner can spend time with her but she doesn't speak to him then either.
We tried very hard to involve her whilst I was pregnant, because she had been so excited when my SIL was pregnant 1st time around. We showed her the scan pics, asked for her advice etc (we got on quite well before and during pregnancy) but MIL didn't show any interest, in the pregnancy changed the subject usually.
Yesterday after my partner and I had tried unsucessfully to start a conversation, my partner said that they were both quiet, MIL said quite sharply what would you like to talk about? we havent really come here to see you just the baby!
I feel sorry for my M&FIL that they wasted their day coming to see a baby who either sleeps or throws up, sorry for my partner that his mum isn't at all interested in him but most of all I feels sorry for my baby who at the moment is a novelty, but what hapens when the novelty wears off?