naming and shameing unfit dads

[zzxxee]

do you think there should be a national data base to name and shame unfit dads who constantly let their kids down, and do nothing for their emotional and finacial upbringing, whilst they live the life of hugh hefner?

[Drisgirl]

No.

At the end of the day its still the kids who are hurt -to my mind the only purpose this would serve would be vengeance by the other partner.

Let the errant parent -its not always men - live with their consciences -if they have none then hell mend them.

[zzxxee]

i dont mean for kids to be hurt but maybe to warn other women who see them as potentil partners off them,

[Drisgirl]

Believe me kids will always be the victims -sad but true.

Think us adults could take lessons from them -another sad but true (:

This is only my comment really-theres no winners in sorry situations like this -only losers.

[zzxxee]

very true still if there was a guarentee the kids would not be hurt , it would be fantastic for crap dads who think it is a god given right to shxg everything that move impregnating the poulation so us tax payers bring up their offspring, to watch them squirm...............

[EngTeach]

A woman in my area blew up posters of her ex with his name and phone number stating that he had never paid a penny of support,and posted them all over town. While I see that the children could be hurt by this, I am sure he was called as this is where he grew up and still lived. A momment of revenge or food on the table?

[Ethel]

No!

What about the men are the victims in the marriage breakup, and then constantly punished by ex-wives who have shacked up with a new man and want the ex to bow out of the childrens lives, refusing contact and so on?

This is just the sort of thing a very vindictive person could do, just because they can.

[spudqueen]

I think that you're not thinking this through. Yes, there are fathers out there who contribute nothing to their childrens lives, but there are also a lot of mothers out there who are not helping their children. Just look at the case of Shannon Matthews. Do you think that her mother did anything for her emotionally? In this case it may seem that living with her father (as her brother does) would have been preferable to living with her mother.
And who would be in charge of putting the fathers names on this data base? The mothers of their children? Do you not think that some of them would just put the fathers name on there to be vindictive?
And even if there was a data base and somehow it was run correctly do you think that women would really check out any new boyfriends on such a website?
Contraception is also not just down to men (impregnating the population as you put it), women can take charge of their own contraception these days.

[Beanmistriss]

What about the mums who don't pay?! My blokes ex went to extraordinary lengths to avoid paying support for their son. The csa told us that they have more problems getting support out of mother who don't have custody than they do with fathers. Obviously there are more men to get money from so it seems a bigger problem. I'm not saying that w@nky blokes out there but there are ladies too.

Also, how many fathers get the chance to have custody? Not many. Then they can't win, "He only has them two weekends a month and then he just does nice stuff with them and I get all the crappy stuff!" I bet most would jump at the chance to get to do the crappy stuff and live with their kids full time.

I'm a bit of a ranter :/

[sara3]

hey, let's have a site where we can name and shame the lousy dates we've had!

I wonder if anyone would name me...

[zzxxee]

excellent name