Techniques to calm a voilent 6 year old

[siddesh]

One of my cousin's son is getting voilent recently. Is there a way to calm down the kid and put a stop to this behaviour. We want to try ourselves before going to a doctor for help. Any suggestions please?

[snagged]

Could it be dietary?

[zzxxee]

try a food allergy test usually avaliable in health food shops for around 20 pound, or look at the way he is diciplined

[Ethel]

Very very few people have a food allergy - it is incredibly rare.

Some people have an intolerance to food, but it is still rare.

However, high sugar, high caffeine, and artificial colours won't do him any good and can affect his behaviour although it shouldn't make him violent.

If he has violent tantrums, wrap your arms firmly round his body from behind, trapping his arms. Sit on the floor with him still held like that and put your legs over his legs. He shouldn't be able to move, but this shouldn't hurt him in any way. When the tantrum subsides just ignore him and carry on as usual.

If he is simply hitting or biting people that is more difficult. If it is within the home tell him off and walk out of the room, again ignoring him. Don't give him too much attention when he behaves badly and don't laugh it off.

[Quinlad]

A taser may help.

[terambulan]

A good whack on his bum & legs will cure him forever. The shock will confuse him. He will also learn that there is retaliation to violence.......preparing him for adulthood.

[LoftyLottie]

A good whack on the legs will teach him that violence is absolutely OK and will certainly not cure him. The most violent and uncontrollable children I know come from a family where whacking is commonplace and they absolutely don't take any notice of it and whack each other!!

[Nosha123]

has he chanegd schools or classes recently.. kids often lash out when anxious or frustrated cos they dont have the language or social skills to explain their unhappiness.. have his parents been rowing a lot lately.... or a new addition to the family....

Try the SUpernanny techiniques of the naughty step.. and a star chart to reward the good behaviour. Maybe his parents need some one on one time with him too to talk about feelings and how his actions can upset and hurt people.

[LoftyLottie]

And Ethel's methods really do work. Try to remain calm yourselves - quiet discipline works best (although very difficult, I will admit).

[JockSporran]

I got my @rse tanned when I didn't behave. Didn't do me any harm. Made me the man I am (wibble wibble where's my fairy costume, Mr Spock?). No but seriously, a smack just once, and thereafter the mere THREAT of punishment should do the trick.

The Victorians had some good ideas. Doctor Dopechild's cholic drops with added laudanum (JOKE! JOKE! JOKE! in neon letters, OK?).

Some posh parents these days don't like to even scold or raise their voice to a child. That will not work. A child has to be taught to respect other people, just like an animal must be trained.

[S.K.SWEDEN]

Hope you weren't left on the sunbed for too long, Jock!

[Ethel]

The problem with showing a violent child that you can smack harder can means he finds somebody smaller to smack.

Get everything out of his bedroom except his bed, furniture and a few books. No tv, dvd player, computer, games console, music centre.....

When he has been violent send him to bed for an hour to cool off and he apologises. When his behaviour starts to improve significantly, let him have a plaything back in his room. If he behaves badly, out they come again.

[JockSporran]

Ethel's answer is a good one.