my sons behaviour

[nirupapl]

My son is 4 years old. Does not listen to what we say has a bad reputation at school. He does good in his academics but not a listener.

Not sure as to how we have to handle this situation

[newtron]

If you tell him to do something and he does not do it, physically force him to do it! You are bigger and stronger than him. He needs to know that when you tell him to do something, he does not have a choice in the matter.

[legend.isgod]

What advice did the doctor give you?


Im assuming youve spoken to your doctor about this?
Far more sensible idea than on here.

[annie0000]

Sounds like he is a bright boy - maybe he needs more mental stimulation. You also need to make sure that you have his attention when you ask him to do something and get his agreement to go and do it or lay down the consequences of not doing it. e.g. loss of priviledge or treat or time spent in time out. Consistency and making sure that he is stimulated and praised for good behaviour is the key.

If he manages his school work without listening, then imagine how well he would do if he was listening.

He is probably bored and then getting into trouble.

[onlyme26]

i agree with annie0000

my daughter can be a handful for her dad, but good as gold for me, its the way he comes across to her,

forcing and shouting does no good so i wouldnt take the advice to do that!

you need to go to their level and reason with them, yes they need to know whos boss but also need to see why its good for them to do as they are told,

i have a naughty chart for my daughter, and a good chart, she is 7 now but cant see why it wouldnt work for 4yr old
basically if she is naughty or doesnt do as she is told, she gets a cross on the naughty chart, 10 crosses and she gets no pocket money on a friday, or maybe no pudding or sweets - things like that

but to make it even we have a good chart, so we praise her for the good things she does and give her star stickers and she gets a treat when she has 10 but a star also gets taken away if she is naughty!

to be honest she rairly gets crosses anymore, she is 7 and pretty well behaved and loves her treats!!

worth a try

good luck xx

[nirupapl]

Thanks for your reply.. I think I would like to try the chart with good and bad marked for him.. I am sure it would work.