not sure about friend

[karmgirl]

Recently got back in touch with an old school friend but not sure if she is my type of person, she's more immature than me and quite loud and ott, total opposite of me, I'm just not sure she's my type of person. I want a friend who I feel comfortable with and on the same wavelength, someone I can trust to share things with etc. Thing is after getting in touch with her again - how do I get out of touch with her again without it being obvious I don't want to hang around with her?

[petal54]

wait till/if she contacts you,if nothing you both feel the same,no harm done.what was friend like before? can't all grow at same pace.she may be trying to 'impress'

[karmgirl]

She was more or less the same, shes improved a bit but not much. I got in touch with her again cus I need a better social life and I heard she was pregnant too so I thought she might have matured a bit more and calmed down but she hasn't much. Is it really mean to not get in touch and let it fizzle out again though. She bought me a birthday present in August too so feel bad cus it looks like I got in touch just for a present.

[helliebobs]

Wow, you sound like a great friend! Got in touch cos YOU wanted a better social life? And because she's pregnant.
Maybe she's thinking the same about you too!

[joggerjayne]

If you don't work at friendships, they tend to fizzle out unless there is a really deep bond.

It sounds like you two just don't have anything in common any more.

I'd guess that you're not going to put much effort into this friendship ... so your "friend" will soon lose interest.

It's a shame, but it sounds like it's not meant to be.

[logic]

speaking as a bloke here, but if you both have different characters, then probably you will learn different interests from each other, If we were all the same it would be very dull.
On the other hand if you just want to better your social life, ie going out more, then maybe your friend wont want to do this kind of thing much, any more, as she is pregnant,
But either way, it should not stop you being friends,

[4getmenot]

you may find this friend is what you need sometimes. I have lots of different friends ones I go to to talk to, ones I share my deepest secrets with, ones that make me laugh, ones that make me feel naughty.