Best Friends Guy

[smiler40ee]

My pal met a guy over the interent. She met him just over 5 weeks ago although they had been talking for a couple of weeks. She was away on holiday for one of the weeks since they have met. Am I wrong to be a little wary of him? She has met his son, met all his family, has said the "L" word and talks about marriage to her. She had a bad experience with someone she met of the internet last year but i just feel its going far too fast for her. She said she likes him but didnt say back the "L" word. His son seems to be a bit of a brat and was quite badly behaved. Im worried about her - i just think things are going way too fast. I do hope she mets someone nice but my instincts are telling me something else about him.

[4getmenot]

if you want her to be happy which she seems to be at the moment then let her be, if it dowesnt work out be there for her then

[barney1966]

How old is his son?

How long has he been on his own?

It sounds like he is trying to bring in a replacement mum/wife asap.

Agree he seems to be moving way too fast and she seems to be aware of this too. I think she needs to take steps to slow things down although he sounds the type to get unreasonable, hurt, etc. if she backs off.

[smiler40ee]

His son is 10years old. He has been split up for about 2 years. Still in touch with his ex and sees her often. Although apparently they dont get on!! Hmmm.
He keeps asking to meet all her friends and family - all the time.
I do want her to be happy. She deserves it. But something is making alarm bells ring inside me and i dont know why. Im keeping my mouth shut though as I dont want it affecting my friendship with her. Will see what happens.

[happyone2]

you could always check a few of the things that you know about him......www,192.com will give you electoral roll records, youd be surprised how much that often tellsyou........

go with your intuition.....................

however, also accept that whatever the truth, she may not want to hear it and might turn on you because of it...................

be careful thats all !!

[lil123]

I think your right to have doubts.
I have had a similar experience myself. I met someone on the internet who was saying similar things and it turned out he had a major gambling addiction.
I had trouble ending it as well as he was so manipulative but luckily lived far enough away not to be coming round all the time. He was also seeing other people behind my back off the internet.
I found him on several dating sites saying he was single.
I don't think it's healthy to be talking of long term commitment so soon from my own experience alarm bells would be ringing.
I think people pray on vulnerable people on the internet.

[sara3]

I think I would be cynical, too, but you'll get no thanks for voicing this.. or checking up on him without her knowledge. you don't have to pretend you're delighted but she's an adult and has to make her own choices.

support her, and be there for her if it falls apart.

and don't say, "I told you so"!

[sarah-jayne7]

hi there,
if your friend trusts you tell her how you feel with out sounding like your intruding. but best for you to do is help her be there for her and step in if you think things are wrong, you keep in mind love is blind so she may not see what you see.

[smiler40ee]

Thank you to everyone who as replied.

Another thing I am not sure about is that he does not drink. Not that thats a crime in itself but apparenty he will not even have a glass of something. Im not making out that my friend and I are raving alcoholics but I admit we like a bottle of wine at the weekend and a few when we are out. He wont say why he doesnt have a drink either. My bf says he could have been an alcoholic and now is on the wagon - could be true I suppose. Its just something else that doesnt add up. No explanation. No nothing.

Im maybe over-reacting here but im worried and I hope im proved wrong. I really do.