Age gap relationships, do they work?

[Velvetee]

Can large age gap relationships, where the woman is much older than the man really work and last.

Carol McGiffin from Loose Women is 47 and dating a 26 year old. I personally think he's just having a laugh, it's all novelty and once it wears off he'll drop her like a ton of bricks. Am I right or just middle aged and cynical?

[Petal~flower]

for me, I couldnt date a younger man, as I would feel he would always be looking for someone younger. But thats just me and my insecurities!

[Ice.Maiden]

Not necessarily. I have a friend who married a guy almosyt 20 years her junior - and that was after a 6-week whirlwind romance. Everyone seemed horrified, and whispered that it couldn't last, but it has. Several years down the line, they're as happy as ever. Having said that, my friend's a beautiful woman, inside and out. She looks nowhere near her 47 years, and still has a fab figure and so on. Her husband says he's never met such a kind and thoughtful person, and he adores her. They also have a young son together now.

[Velvetee]

Do you have a pic of her Ice? I'm really nosey and voyeuristic.

[terambulan]

Some older people are immature and some younuns quite mature, depending on their personalities. Good luck to them. I dont think there are any children involved so they do have a better chance of success.

I have noticed that children seem to want to break up these new partnerships.

[Ice.Maiden]

No, I haven't got many pics on my computer at all, Velvetee, and I wouldn't post one without her permission anyway, but I've mentioned her on here before, because tbh, their situation IS in the minority, I think, and it's lovely when things work out in that way. My eldest sister knew my friend first, and used to talk about this "really beautiful, natural woman". When I first saw her, I was expecting her to be unpleasant in some way. Sounds awful, but can one person really have it all? Anyway, I was wrong. She IS lovely, and everyone who meets her agrees. I can well understand why her husband fell for her.

[terambulan]

Think Carol McGiffin was wed to Chris Evans before Billie Piper.

[Ice.Maiden]

But it obviously finished, didn't it? I don't think an age gap matters, providing two people have something in common, and are really in love. A lot of women go for younger men these days, and you can see some sense in that, but then again, as the man becomes older, his ideas might start to change, such as if he wants a family, and his older partner can't give him that. Think it depends on the couple concerned, and what they both get out of the relationship.

[angel-cake]

My bloke is 11 years younger than me (im 34) and initially i was really not keen purely on the age thing but i got to know him and the age gap seems to 'disappear' when im with him. I can only see how it goes i guess.

My last ex was my age and we lasted 7 years (most of that time was spent wondering if we were meant to be together). My current bloke has shown more committment than my ex ever did so he has changed my views and stopped me judging people by their age.

I dont think i could go out with someone younger than him though, and i would definitely draw the line if they were young enough to be my son (ie 16 yrs younger or more).

[catcuddler]

i know its the other was round but my partner is 20 years older than me and we have lasted almost 7 years.i guess the novelty has worn off but thats because it does in any relationship not just age gap ones.although our tastes differ i.e. music tv etc we have the same principles and hopes and dreams.when i look at my partner i dont see a man in his forties i see the man i love.i think age gap relationships have just as much chance of working as same age relationships.i would recommend anyone considering an age gap relationship to give it a go as it may make you as happy as it has made me.as the saying goes age is just a number

[Le Chat]

My husband is 10 yrs younger than me but I've never thought of him as being younger. In our relationship, the dynamics are such that he is the 'older' and more sensible one! No-one ever asks or even suspects probably because I physically appear younger and he appears older! He reckons he was just as mature at 20!

[rov1200]

Madonna and Ritchie shows what a disaster it can turn out to be. Undressed it must be like looking at your grandmother.

[lizzydrippin]

Any relationship can be a disaster regardless of age gaps. As for grandmothers, Kylie Monogue and Madonna are both old enough to be grandmothers and not many men would kick either out of bed!

[Ice.Maiden]

Very true - and there are some young guys who'd even light up if Tina Turner was mentioned!

It just depends on the couple concerned, and if you love each other, an age gap either way's no barrier.
My husband's 14 years older than me, and yes, in his 40's - and gorgeous. 6ft. 2", looks like a man, acts like a man - and I'm more than happy with that.

[lizzydrippin]

You sound like a lucky lucky girl Ice.

[Ice.Maiden]

Thanks hun - but I keep reminding him that he's lucky as well!
Lol - night all. xxxx

[bantingm]

I made a big mistake, at 16, when i had a 2 year relationship with a 49 year old man. we had known each other for years before, and he was one of my parents best friends. he was married, with two grown up children and im not really even sure how it happened. we would meet in secret most days and i thought i loved him, he told me the same. eventually he moved out from his family home and i tried to make it work with us living together but i ijust ended up hating him. especially when i found out he was seeing another women (another family friend, also married) for years before, and during our relationship. i shake now when i see him and had to move 40 miles away from home just to get away from the terrible memories. how was a 16 year old to know any different and why would an old man do that? i still have so many questions, he often tries to get in contact with me, and i have blocked, ignored and even got someone to threaten him if he comes near me again. i wish it had never happened. but 33 years is far too much an age gap. i think its really messed me up and i feel my childhood was taken. looking back i think his advances started when i was just 14, he put me in many awkward situations and even now doesnt seem sorry, he swans around and even his wife still wants him back...where is the justice in this world?!?