Ex Boyfriend - how to get him out?

[truffles]

How would you get an ex boyfriend out of your home? (it's not me honest) He moved in when the baby was born (unplanned) and has not contributed to the running costs of the house, he has done some work within the property when they first got together, but the relationship has deteriated beyond repair. We dont know how to get him out, any suggestions please

[Bathsheba]

Changing the locks did the trick with my ex.

[ChuckFickens]

maybe just speaking to him might help.. he might just be trying to do the right thing as there is a baby involved..

Has he actually been told he is not needed or wanted (in a nice as possible way)

[truffles]

I presume you just removed his stuff first? it was one of the options but we need to make sure he has somewhere to go? which he does not, we don't think he has any legal rights, but dont want to force him to be homeless, can you just ask someone to leave?

[truffles]

There have been problems for a very long time, they do not get on, either one or both work away but when together sparkes fly, He's very nasty, and they have had serious words before, including this week, i just don't think she really knows how to tackle this as last time things got nasty. I did try to suggest talking to him. but i think two things stop him, one the child and two free board and lodgings. Can you just throw someone out? what would you do with his stuff?

[Panic Button]

Bin bags on the lawn?

[truffles]

I think this is what she will have to resort to. Thanks guy's

[Sgt.Rock]

Shouldn't get involved with nutters in the first place.

[truffles]

True, but how do you know this if they are great at hiding it? have you ever met someone who turned out be the opposite? we were all fooled apart from one friend, even my partner was taken in by him, but we have all seen both sides of him now.

[Sgt.Rock]

Yes, I've met a few nutters but I am able to spot them early and don't let them into my life!!

[Sgt.Rock]

Your partner was taken in by him? How many do you have on the go?

[truffles]

The problem is my friends, we are a group of 5 friends (female) my husband (partner) is not taken in by anyone normally, and is very good at spotting the odd balls. Only one of our friends did not like him from the start.

[Nhozu]

best way is to get him to leave volunteerily. possibly even send him on a "holiday" (cheaper than doing it through the courts).

once he is out for the required period he no longer has property rights. before then, if you change the locks/through his stuff out you might be caught out by property law. at the moment he is legally recognised as an occupant. Even selling the house will still enable him to stay in it.

(assuming he has lived there for a while)

[Beanmistriss]

Perhaps your mate could leave and the bloke stay in the house with the baby (unplanned)? It's as much his baby as it is hers surely :)

[truffles]

Thanks for your suggestions, if she moved out she'd be homeless, and he'd gain a 200k house? not fair when he's never supported the house or child. I do see the point about the holiday as he is not in the house, but would it not be the same as being at work? we did wonder if she could arrange a rented property for him but be close enough to see the child. and just move him out.