I have this friend who

[roosi]

is a work colleague, nothing more. Although I did go out with her and her friends once around a year ago. I speak and am friendly when I am in work, but again that's as far as I would like it to go.

She can be overly interfering - when I talk about my weekends on maybe monday, she interrogates me as if what I told her I'd be doing at the weekend (on Friday for example) is a lie, if my plans change per say. I shouldn't feel like I have to justify anything to her, and if my plans change quite frankly again it should be none of her business. Agreed?
Well, the other weekend she asked me to join her and a mutual friend up at hers for drinks (foc) cos I am broke just now, lift there and back - ie no excuses. I told her politely in an email that I would give it a miss, but thanks for the invite, and on Tuesday was talking to her about the weekend. She knows I am skint. I said oh, me and the OH ended up going down the pub for a couple of drinks, but one os us drove and watched telly afterwards and chilled. And she blatently comes away wtih things like "and you couldn't afford to even come up to mine - Free of Charge!". I felt like saying, actually this is because........but I didn't I stuttered and said something like yeah, but it didn't cost much and lied about the fact my OH was maybe going to be working, and we didn't want to make any plans. Am now kicking myself, as I should have just said something like " with all due respect none of your business" but tried to remain polite.

She really annoys me, how can I tell her firstly that I don't wanna socialise outwith work,, wanna remain her friend, and also tell he that what I do in my spare time has nothing to do wtih her, but nicely, and to stop her from thinking eveything I tell her has to be justified?? I explain everything as I fell she puts me on the spot and it's really getting me angry - and I don't wanna fall out big time as I have to wk wtih her......

Sensible

[redcrx]

maybe shes the one making up a life? perhaps she doesnt have 300 friends and is really just hoping that you and her can be friends

[dustinmyeye]

roosi , im sorry can i just ask are you a man or a woman ?

[roosi]

Woman, and she really does have many many "friends" although I wonder how good friends they are, she spends unscrupulous amounts of money on the (and me) at Xmas, and goes overboard wtih everything she is insecure - but it's the constant badgering that really does my head in.

I just wonder how I can ask her nicely to bloody well stop asking stuff arrrrgh!

[annie0000]

Just tell her that you and the other half were at it like bunnys all weekend next time she asks - that would maybe put her off - but then again, maybe she would just ask for an invite over to join you!

[roosi]

That's actually quite good too annie, thanks maybe will - ha ha then see her face!

[roosi]

To that though - I know what she'd say - so is there anything your not telling me - trying for the pitter patter?

She IS SOOOOOOO NOSEY you've no idea!

[annie0000]

Or you could just turn the conversation around next time - when she askes what you were doing, just say "oh the usual, you know - what about you, what did you get up to?" Then just ask copious questions until you then need to get back to work.

[annie0000]

Then again, it might just be easier to find another job in a new city and cut off all ties with the past.

[roosi]

Nah, love my job!!!

[katieprice70]

Just tell her that she annoys you. Why would you want to be friends with someone like her? she obviously bugs the life out of you so tell her and she will probably leave you alone. Some people are just nervously nosey and they don't realise they are being annoying unless someone points it out to them. If I were her and I knew how you felt, I certainly wouldn't want you on my friends list and after all she has another 300 so no great loss is there?