Hi I have had this problem before, and know it can be frustrating. It could be 1 of various reasons or a combi of all, so know wonder ur a bit confused? What someone mentioned about the shower gel etc could be a factor, as excessive washing down there, particuarly with scented products etc can strip away your natural oils and poss interefere withe the lubrication process! Similarly it seems its becomin a bit of an issue for u, and that in itself can create a viscious cycle. It could be just a phase, and u do need to relax more like the others said and try to go with the flow, so to speak! : - ) This may be diff given ur partners concerns, as it almost puts u under pressure to perfom as it were. See how you get on, and if your still concerned then maybe a trip to the docs is the way forward from here. Good luck x