funerals

[petal54]

went to a funeral today,of elderly (96),which lead to us talking re how we wished to be 'sent off',what type of send off do you wish for?

[mrs_overall]

I want a cheap coffin, no frills or flowers and a basic cremation.

I do however want a lengthy service beforehand so my nearest and dearest will HAVE to listen to my favourite tunes without yelling at me to turn it down.
I already have the playlist planned, starting with "Here I Go Again on My Own" by Whitesnake

[haysi06]

Hi petal54, I have been to more funerals this year than I care to remember :( most have been quite sombre. I want a Humanist celebration and have been thinking of the songs that I want played. If I am being flippant I say "Relight my Fire" by Take That when I go into the big fire (crematorium) but realistically its going to be something uplifting. :)

[tigerlily11]

Hi petal54. Snap I was at the funeral of a 96 year old uncle on the 7th of this month and we had exactly the same conversation.
I was mortified at the last song they played which was Matt Munro's Softly As I Leave You.
It has stuck in my head and I cry when I hear it now.
So I want as many High energy Gospel numbers as possible because I would like a celebration of the life that was rather than death that has come.

[tigerlily11]

Your Love is Lifting Me
And any upbeat gospel.
As I go in or the commital as they call it, I want The End by the Doors.In the End by Linkin Park.
H wants Life is a Caberet Or Wish you Were Here by Pink Floyd.
My son David would like Shine on You Crazy Diamond.

[kujawski]

i want to be dumped into the sea with bick concrete blocks tied to me so i dont float up again,

an at the service i want "dont worry be happy" played by bobby McFerrin

[skipy]

I work with the elderly and have whit nest death on many occasions it dosnt get any easier to see people die even though they are old and lived a life. i think for me knowing what the end of life can hold i would like to die in my home with my family around me and my funeral to reflect not just my life but also the death i had .morbid perhaps but we live in such a sanitised world we fear death so much we don't talk about it or share our feelings becouse i think if we did we may not be so frightened when the approaches

[zzxxee]

i also work with the elderly , and this type of conversation pops up a lot with fellow staff as long as people turn up and say she wasnt a bad lass and my kids think i did my best as a mum i dont care if im cremated or buired, anice song would be wind beneath my wings bette midler

[petal54]

i want to be cremated,no frills,not sure what,if any,music,my folks want either cremation or buried in garden next to their animals,which would be interesting for future tony robinsons i suppose

[joggerjayne]

Cremated, and thrown off the end of the pier.

Or mixed into the pebbles on Brighton Beach.

[brenda]

Cremated, no flowers , no vicar, just Tina Turner at full blast "Simply the Best", then off to the pub for a noggin or three.

[oldgrape]

buried with church packed with crying people and people saying she was too good to die

[Whoever]

A gleaming black hearse, a sprinkling of Royals walking solemnly behind my coffin, a nice military parade and a service in Westminster Abbey.
What I'll get will undoubtedly very different!

[sara3]

I really couldn't care. I just wouldn't want any hypocrites to be there.

[Buenchico]

This is a direct 'cut and paste' from my will:
"I desire that my body be cremated without ceremony and that my ashes be disposed of, also without ceremony, in any convenient refuse receptacle"

Chris

[coccinelle]

Are sea burials allowed in the UK like jukawski suggests?
They aren't allowed in France and that's what my (French)husband wishes.

[ganesh]

I'm with you buenchico,but n -liner will do me.Don't get it,why should you want certain songs or ceremonies. You can't see them ,YOU'RE DEAD.

[ganesh]

that should have read BIN LINER-don't know what went wrong there,spooky!