Am I selfish?

[angel21]

I live with a few other people.

Anyway one girl keeps asking to borrow my hair straighteners and I am not assertive enough to say no. I don't mind a couple of times lending them out every now and again but people just seem to keep on and take advantage and I can't say no.

This morning another girl (shes 13) in my house knocked on my bedroom door loudly, (I was alseep) and before I had said come in she opens the door and now she wants to borrow my hair straighteners.

I told myself last time that I would say no next time anyone wanted to borrow them so I'm really annoyed with myself.

They are all really generous people and share everything and stuff so I feel like they'll think I'm being selfish but I'm not its just that everyone has different boundaries.

I am annoyed that she just walked into my room without me saying come in too.

Do you think I should say something later and if so how can I tell her nicely that she needs to wait until I say come in before she comes in and is it wrong of me considering all the others are so generous that I don't want to lend my hair straighteners?

[redcrx]

watch out angel, your halo may slip

got an answer yet?

[cazzz1975]

just be frank about the room barging, I wouldnt tolerate it or sugar coat it. Its about manners. you are the adult, dont allow yourself to be walked over or intimidated.

[PatriciaH]

Can you buy a cheap pair and let the kids use them incase yours get broke ?

[angel21]

Thanks Cazz and Patricia

I'm going to just try and say something I think.

I don't feel I should buy a cheap pair as a cheap pair is about �15/20/30 and I don't see why I should. If they want hair straighteners - the 32 year old and the 13 yr old - i live in a shared house then they can buy their own cheap pair

[PatriciaH]

e bay angel : ) - and hopefully theyl stop using yours

[redcrx]

�5 tesco for Nicki clarke ones.

but if a shared house, nothing to do with you, not related etc then just say no, you dont seem to be shy with words.

oh and put a lock on your door.