Men!

[razmataz]

The other day my certain special someone said he did not say he did not love me, and then when I texted him the next day to say I adores me, he said 'ditto'. The problem is he never comes out and says he loves me. Why would he do this?

[razmataz]

Correction to my last post! I meant to say I texted him to say I adored him!

[beso]

Men?? You generalise to all men on the basis of your experience with one man?

I do wish some women would stop being so sexist.

[Panic Button]

Get him drunk and he'll say it.

[Huderon]

Because, for some men, saying things like that is a form of commitment,. If he is one of them, he may not be ready to go there yet, if ever.

There are also some men who just don't compliment their partners, possibly believing that the fact that he sticks with you is enough to tell you what you want to know. Stupid, but us men can be like that sometimes !

[razmataz]

I wasn't meaning to appear sexist at all.

[beso]

Decades ago people did not wish to appear sexist either when some stood up and pointed out the embedded sexism against women in so much of our culture. The sexism was often expressed in throwaway remarks and defended as not meaning anything.

Women have opportunities now that were not available to them before the 1960s because people were made aware of sexism against women and changed their habits. I don't think young people really comprehend the extent of these old barriers against women.

Unfortunately a similar emancipation was not made available to men and many women don't recognise the sexism still perpetrated upon men. It mosly involves persistent accusations about men not being emotional sensitive and unwilling to commit to relationships.

I grew up in the 60s and 70s and suffered terribly for being an sensitive male. I didn't do the macho stuff and I was frequently accused of being a sissy or gay. Meanwhile my personality traits were considered quite acceptible for girls.

It still hurts when I see women generalising about men. All I ask is that people respect our diversity.

[happyone2]

its all to do with stereo typing, im sure we all suffer from it in some way or other, me.........its how people think i must act or be because i am overweight.

People make assumptions about me based on my size that hve no bearing on the person i am !! i find that infuriating..............


razmataz...................... i dont think hes ready yet, i dont think you should push him....................

[mandimoo]

how long you been with him?

[terambulan]

ditto = he adores himself!

Stop being so needy and tell him to fek off! Find someone worthwhile.

[razmataz]

Mandimoo-11 months been with him. I am so confused.

[happyone2]

What is causing your confusion, can you be a little more specific please ??

[razmataz]

Confused about his feelings for me.

[jenty]

sounds to me like he is frightened of commitment...

[B00]

Why are you confused?

If he didn't love or care for you, surely he'd move on?

He's still with you, take that as read that he's with you as he wants to be so therefore he must love you.

And it really isn't necessary to say you love someone just because they've said it to you first.

[jenty]

just because you are living together that in itself doesnt say that he loves you..if you yourself are uncertain of the relationship and he isnt up front with his true feelings them perhaps its time to call it a day..

[B00]

Hang on...why do you feel she should call it a day jut because he doesn't say those 3 words?

Actions speak louder than words you know, and I still say the very fact that he's with her tells her all she needs to know.

in my opinion razmataz, you're fretting over something and nothing. Don't let it get to you. If you let this little thing, and it is little, worry you, you're in danger of forcing him away anyway. There's nothing more off putting than someone who's needy.

[razmataz]

Thanks to all those who answered.

[wischy]

Just remember the film Ghost :o)