help

[yummymum]

my partner and father of my 2 children as told me he is bi sexual this afternoon, it came after i found messages from him to another gay lad talking about the guy my partner was in love with when he was 18. I have been with him for 8 years and i really dont know what to do with myself now, feels like there is no point going on.

[QueenOfAmber]

dont be depressed! hang in there girl!
(this should've really gone in relationships and dating but nvm)
at least hes not gay - then there wouldn't be ANY point in going on...
maybe he's just having a mid-life crisis or something?...

[weeal]

STOP that last sentence is too scary to think about

[weeal]

you mean no point in going on with the relationship right?

[ChuckFickens]

so is he currently a "practicing" bi sexual (so to speak) or is this just something in his past.

if it's just something in his past then sorry but so what? he has made his choice and settled with you, it should make no difference that he has had an ex boy friend or and ex girl friend.

[QueenOfAmber]

wise words of wisdom there chuck!

[ddaisy992]

pleas dont do anything rash, its in the past, hes still the man you fell in love with regardsless of his previous partner. If hes seeing the guy now then you need a long hard chat.

[Prudentia]

bin the looser and get a life, you don.'t deserve this crap.

[yummymum]

he as been talking to different gay guys, i told him today that i feel like killing myself and he just said go on then, i tried it a whikle back and the only thing that stops me now is having to face everybody if it diesnt work.

[legendis.god]

Is this for real?

[yummymum]

why the hell would i lie

[QueenOfAmber]

Yummymum don't kill yourself because of a MAN! Men are the weaker of the species so don't let him win! Think of your kids? What would they think? If it really gets to the point where you can't take it anymore divorce the sucker. You'll get most of the money anyway, if you take your kids of course, so it might be an option perhaps? A last resort though. No-one wants you to get divorced because it would put off future men...

[yummymum]

im gonna go to bed ae and hope i have a solution in the morning, sorry to bother you all

[Eve]

Oh hon!

I see it the same way as guys who like women and he could have been talking about a girl he was in love with when he was 18, depending on what he was saying though I suppose. Maybe try and see the bigger picture even though it's hard when it's so personal.

He is with you and has been for a long time so there is something there.

You have no shame if it doesn't work, people break up all the time and it's far more common that you probably think for girls to have former partners who like people of the same sex - one of my exes is now happily married to a man.

I know quite a few girls who have had past partners who have also had relationships with men and I know many even gay (and bi of course) men who have former female partners and quite a few with children.

There are so many reasons for you to go on, not least your two lovely children.

[controvert]

You must carry on yummy, he was only 18 at the time, we all experiment at that age. It took me a while to find my true self. Sometimes I fancy other men, but manage to control my feelings. Why not invite his friend round for tea, you can all have an informal chat and find out if they love one another. You may find that it's just a very close friendship and nothing to worry about. If not, you may have to say bi.

Andy Hughes.

[weeal]

^ youre not andy hughes

[Lakitu]

It's Andy Hughs with a mask on! :-o

[Lakitu]

It's Andy Hughes with a mask on! :-o

[Lakitu]

Blimey NoKnow ((((hug))) xx