I am seriously....

[Slooow_Jo]

Hormonal, upset, angry, sad, depressed, confused, pitiful!!!

Ok I admit the first one pretty much covers it all lol but I am feeling in a right f*cked off tearful mood :o( I've just spend the day with my mum, as its her birthday, it should have been a nice day, but I'm surprised my tongue hasn't fell off after the amount of times I had to bite it :(

[Slooow_Jo]

I've tried before to speak to her but its a waste of time! she just accuses me of 'starting' so I dont bother any more. she just doesn't like me!

Another example, she told me last night she is going to Ireland at easter & wants to take my eldest, I said he couldn't go coz its my youngests b-day on good friday & she said I'm being a selfish bitch :o( If having your kids together for birthdays is selfish, so be it!!

[Lakitu]

I think the best thing you can do for your own health is to distance yourself from her as much as you can (I realise it's not fully because of the boys). I can't say her comments will hurt less, but I don't see why you should be putting yourself through this torture if she can't open her eyes to it herself.

xxxx

[sara3]

Jo, you have to just accept that this is how she is. my mum upsets me all the time and I moan to my best friend, and she says, "but she's always been like that".. and it's true. she is selfish and thoughtless, sometimes rude.. and her birthday coming up. every year I search for a card that doesn't say "you're the best mum" or something similar.

you're a better mother than she is, and a better person. rise above it and pat yourself on the back for not killing her :o)

[DaisyMae]

I would not normally advocate any sort of threats but I feel that in this case it might be wise to remind your mother that the welfare of your sons is paramount and that you will do anything to protect them - including protecting them from her vitriol about their mum. Tell her straight that in law she has no rights where they are concerned and you will not allow her to see them unless she curbs her viscious tongue. Clearly she won't change her bahaviour because she knows it upsets you, but she might if she thinks that it will mean she won't get to see her grandsons.

[Lakitu]

^ What Daisy said :o)