relationships

[kitesurfer]

do you agree with this. at any stage in any relationship at any one time there is always one partner who has more love than the other. this swaps from partner to partner until inevitably fizzles out and ends unless they are very committed or have kids??????????

[Richard1966]

Disagree totally. Kids make no difference to whether love stays or goes. They may make two unhappy people stay together longer but children do not generate love between parents only between parent and child.

I do think you have a point about love ebbing and flowing over time, but this can go on indefinitely and does not have to fizzle

[andy-hughes]

I disagree as well.

In my experience, the dynamics of a relationship can change from minute to minute, as well as day to day, and year to year.

My love for my wife is constant and steady, and rarely alters, wheras she can hate me severely one day and love me loads the next, depending on a variety of circumstances.

It comes down to the differencce in out personalities - we are all a product of our upbringing and temprement.

I certainly don't believe in an inevitable 'fizzling out' - I think you reach a stage where you know you are going to be together for the rest of your lives, and you accept the pluse and minuses that go with that situation.

[carlton23]

I have been married 42yrs and I agree with andy-hughes totally. (Saves a lot of typing)

[LoftyLottie2]

Totally agree with Andy too (Married 37 years). Probably would still be together even if we had no kids. My thoughts about what constitues love have changed as I get older too. What I thought was love at 25 when I first married was not in fact a deep love. The foundations were there though.

[LoftyLottie2]

Who?

[bednobs]

i have been with my husband 16 years, and dont have any kids, so i cant agree with you

[cazzz1975]

Andy has put it very well, once again :D

[Ethel]

I agree with Andy, too.

[christine847]

lol @Leggy

[pips1]

lol @ leggy - so quick! Wholeheartedly agree with Andy, very well put. I totally loved my husband, warts and all, but alas after a long marriage he changed how he felt about me. It will always be the saddest thing that ever happened to me as he is now with someone else and I still feel exactly the same.

[soicowboy]

i agree to a certain extent...yes obviously there are relationships where one loves more than the other...of course thats true..but lots of reasons why marriages fail,,,too many to mention....