wife as left

[teamfisher]

my wife as left me for about a week now she as also left our three kids with me . She as moved in with another man. We have a morgage and other bills of witch i have been paying the most of .she as not talked to me or the kids since she left .I need advice of what to do .I now she is going to take the kids soon.My kids dont want to go .CAN SHE JUST TAKE THEM OFF ME please help

[teamfisher]

the age of my kids are 16 .13.and 6

[terambulan]

She can try but they're old enuf to find their own way back if they want.

[pinktwink]

seek legal advice and apply for custody of the children to ensure their security and safety with you in their family home. Try and talk to her about custody arrangements as it will be very important for the children to see her and know she is ok.
Talk to the children about what has happened assuring them that whilst mammy and daddy are no longer living together they do and will always love them. Try to be as honest as possible with the children maintaining their routines as much as possible to ensure minimal disruption to their lives. They will be feeling anxious and upset at present talk to their schools and ask teachers to keep a close eye on them. Good luck

[teamfisher]

thanks pinktwink but can she just take them.i love my kids and what mother can do this to her kids.my dad looks after them when im at work then they come to me when i get home.if she takes them were they dont want to go then thats wrong

[Nannyjill]

has she said she is going to take them? Maybe the other guy won't want them?

Go and get legal advice as pinktwink has suggested. I'm sure your 2 eldest will be asked who they want to be with. Just because she is the mother doesn't mean she will automatically get custody.

I'm sure at the end of the day she wants what ais best for your children as clearly you do.

[pinktwink]

technically yea she can lookt to take them your 16 and 13 your old can vote with their feet and decide to stay. This may be harder for the young on e hwo will feel torn. Whatever about your relationship with her she is still their mum. Hence the importance of having an agreement in writing regarding custody and access which protects your children from more upheave;. As far as parental rights go yee both have equal rights to the children

[Velvetee]

As has been said, the two older children cannot be forced to go with your wife. As for your six year old, then she may be able to get custody of her. You ought to get advice on this, perhaps contact your local CAB office.

[sunchime]

My mum walked out on me and my sister when we were 7 and 9. My dad was worried we would want to leave him and live with her and the bloke she had been having an affiar with. No way! We stayed with Dad and never once wanted to live with mum. I hope your kids feel the same. Even if they do end up going (for whatever reasons), just knowing that you were desperate to keep them with you will mean a hell of a lot and they will still want you in thier lives.

Good Luck - xx