2 month old baby at the wedding

[ettelloc]

I have just found out Im six weeks pregnant and baby is due at the end of September. However we had planned to get married on the 26th September (baby wasnt planned) but now have to postpone. My partner wants to move it to the end of November but im just a bit unsure of how demanding a baby will be at that age and whether its a good idea to have weeding to soon after. Has anyone had any similar experiences and can offer advice. TIA

[Velvetee]

Can you not have the wedding before the baby arrives? My wedding is booked for April, when I will be 7 months pregnant, it's not ideal, but it's what we both want.

[gbradfield]

I think unless you have a very strong support network around you i think it will be very streesful on the 2 of you. A newborn is so demanding, and no doubt you will have lots of sleepless nights and the stress of organising a wedding could possibly push you over the edge. They say the most stressful things you can do is move, have a baby, marriage and divorce and you'll be doing two of them at the same time. Also i think you have to take into hand that you may not feel fully recoverd after the birth foe example if you had a c section it could take 6-8 to recover!

[annie0000]

Depends on the type of wedding and how the baby and you are.

If it is an informal Wedding and you and your partner are laid back people with a relaxed baby then it will probably be no problem. However, if it is a more formal do and you are uptight or unwell, then it could be a nightmare. Babies are very unpredictable and especially in winter, they can come down with coughs and colds and you will be exposing them to lots of fresh germs - honeymoon would be a nightmare!!!

Having said that, babies are probably easier to handle at that age before they are crawling and wanting out the pram. At 2 months they will sleep most of the time.

[meltoadhall]

have the wedding before the baby is born, makes the birth certificate easier and saves your child being illegitimit - sorry old fashioned i know but thats my opinion.
makes it easier that having a new baby and a wedding to sort out too.

[hippyhoppy]

Or don't bother getting married at all - the b@stard will only leave you after the best years of your life and you'll end up a bitter old husk, quite like myself!

[tamborine]

Bring the wedding forward and babe wont carry the stigma 'born out of wedlock'.

[sara3]

sorry to sound negative, but I hope you're not doing this so you can fit into the planned wedding dress 2 months after giving birth. it takes longer than that to re-gain your figure.. unless you're Victoria Beckham!

[ettelloc]

Unfortunately Medtoadhall & Tambourine we cannot bring the weddding forward due to finances and Sara 3 im not just doing it becauseof the wedding dress at all as I dont yet have one to try & fit back into afetr the birth. Annie0000 your comment on the baby being easier to handle at that age is very true. Baby will just really feed & sleep whereas an older baby needs entertaining. Because we cant really mnage it before the baby is here we want to do it as soon as we can but just wanted to know if anyone had been in this situation to offer advice. It will probably just be the ceremony and a meal which will all be in a hotel so baby wont be getting disturbed much having to travel.

[meltoadhall]

you could just have a civil ceremony now and then have a big bash later in the year

[angiebaby57]

I married when my little girl was 6 months and it was fine! There was mum, mum-in-law, friends, and God Mother all mad keen to 'help' so I hardly saw her! JJ had a lovely day, was as good as gold amd lapped up the attention! 2 months will be easier as she will just need feeding, winding and left to sleep! Good luck and congratulations to you. xx

[dancecaller]

My duaghter's baby is 2 months. He was 2 weeks late. He is very demanding at the moment as he has a cold. She finds it as much as she can do to get out to her doctors appointments. Somedays it's hard to find time for her lunch.

I would agree with the civil ceremony suggestion. As soon as you are free of morning sickness and before you get the 7 month exhaustion.
Just invite the closest relatives and promise the rest a family celebration later (be vague about when).
A register office ceremony is not expensive, and your parents will be happy to Go Dutch at the nearest cafe afterwards.

[ettelloc]

Thanks for your answers guys. The only this is we have already paid deposits on a lot of things and would be a lot to lose so a ceremony before the baby is due would be a good idea but we would lose out on a lot of money we've put down so far. We have a lot of family who will be very supportive on the day and the run up to the wedding so hopefully all will be well.

[debbie123]

my oldest is 29 yrs old hes in all my wedding photos,he was 2 months old .your right there will be plenty of freinds and family around to help.so dont worry go and get wed injoy your day.my son spent the night in his cot next to me on the night of our wedding too.best wishes to you both on the day.x