courtesy, at least for the one you claim to love

[kdawg]

hi, im in a long distance relationship with a girl in the us. there is a 5 hour time difference, me being 5 hrs ahead. I call and she is often with friends. She never, never decides to take 10 mins leave the room and have a conversation; i invariably have to call back. Today I called she was having dinner. Ok. I called back few hours later she was chatting to her friend/ Ok. I call 3rd time and she is still there so i said i'd caht to her tomorrow. I think this is a bit much. To be honest, Im never off this site looking for answers about this girl.I'm losing my marbles.

[sara3]

... and then you get the slap in the face that only reality can bring!

[MWB]

Exactly!
Why 'o why do some people have unhealthy & even inappropriate relationships where they are on tenterhooks most of the time & stressed, & jealous, etc.
Love can be difficult, but not like that!

[sara3]

it's probably why I steer clear of relationships.. the big highs and the almighty lows.

[MWB]

Yeah. It's me & my 3 cats now!

But if someone comes along - great!

If not - great!

I'm not looking.

[kdawg]

Guys I know what to do. I do know better but cannot bring myself to actually finish. I have had several sleepless nights over it. Yesterday I wrote a 'draft' finishing letter. I think I need to call her today and end it - i'm just worried she is coming to London without any other plans. Perhaps from now until the 9th Feb will allow her time to make alternate plans. Its f-ed up, i love this girl but i know its going nowhere.

[gbradfield]

i personally dont think that right now she is THAT interseted in you sorry, you need to move on!

[MWB]

kdawg. How are things going with your "girl" ?

How are you?

[kdawg]

MWB, thanks for your query. Its tumultuous still. I cannot go into any great detail but her Visa status is making money difficult. Its very hard and i don't know what to do.

[MWB]

Where is she? Still in the USA or in Britain?