hi all

[oldgrape]

just thought i'd pop on and say hello to everyone how are you all this evening

[legendis.god]

gr8


wassss crackalackin for ewe?

[tamborine]

Hi - oldgrape, will you be raison any issues?

[oldgrape]

have found my entire family we were all taken away from our mum and now i have my 2 brothers and my sister back

so in such a super dooper mood

[NoMercy]

Hi all. Is it just me, or is cb cr@p tonight? I have to concede that my dire contributions are partly to blame!

[tamborine]

How exciting......tell us more oldgrape......how long were you separated? How big is the family you have found? Are they nearby.....

[oldgrape]

i was taken in to care 20 years ago was adopted with 1 brother and lost contact with my other brother 18 years ago and my sister 15 years ago. my sister works in my local pub so she served me been in contact with her 4 8mths and have 2 nephews and found my brother last night by added over 100 people with his name on facebook and he lives in france be meeting him for the first time in 18 years in two months time

[NoMercy]

That's fab oldgrape. I have 3 half sisters and 1 half brother that I haven't seen since I was 3. I know their names but wouldn't have a clue where to begin looking for them.

[tamborine]

Why were you all in care - will understand if you ignore Q. Quite a few unmarried mums in 60s Flower-power days had to give their babes for adoption - no Social help in those days and unwed mothers were stigmatised & traumatised. Fathers seemed unhindered.

[oldgrape]

this was in the eighties my mum was an alcholic and would go for days without feeding us or changing us and i got pneumonia and a neighbour rushed me to hospital and social services got involved

[tamborine]

I hope you had good foster parents. Are you in touch with your mum?

[oldgrape]

i have the best adopted parents in the world i know where my mum is but want no contact with her my sister sees her often i have tracked down my real dad and grandparents though so happy with that

[tamborine]

Y the name 'oldgrape' you must be quite young?

[oldgrape]

i have no one to talk to only a grape covered in mould he gets abit boring 'coz he's so old

i'm 24 wrote that poem when i was very young

[Schutzengel]

oldgrape - I'm so happy for you that you have found your family at last. And so sorry that you had such a hard time when you were little. Thank heavens for your lovely adoptive parents. Love and Hugs to you. Schutz.

[tamborine]

Well you've got Abers to have fun with. No-one need feel alone with sites like this.

Are you a student or working? I hope you have a good network of family and friends to support you.

[oldgrape]

thanks Schutzengel and tamborine

[oldgrape]

i am a full time mum to a two and a half year old but am a qualified mental health nurse.

a load of abers on here have helped me through aload of hard times

thank god for the internet without it i would not have my dad, grandparents, aunts, uncles and now my brother

[tamborine]

you sound very balanced and have been lucky with such caring adoptive parents. Your work probably helps you to understand alcoholic problems. It's a terrible spiral that destroys more than just the individual.

[oldgrape]

your so right tamborine me and the bruv who got adopted together were very lucky my sister never got adopted so got shipped to placve to place and my brother who i have just found was ill treated and beaten so badly that he is deaf in one ear but he is so happy too be back in my life

[tamborine]

OMG oldgrape....that sends shivers down me. I had a deaf girl stay with me who had been abused and beaten by alcoholic mother. Even thrown out of upstairs window when a babe. Poor girl is now in a worse state on drugs, 2 babes in care & she's on the streets. It's really hard for some out there, and they wont be helped.