MORE.............................see above.

[MWB]

The thing is, my Mum was always a vivacious, happy woman, but is now depressed. The start of their marriage was fine; Mum could handle it. But with him getting so much worse, she is a meek, unhappy mess.
I know it's situational depression & removing oneself from the situation would help. But Mum is from the generation that you just don't do that. Money is not a problem, so if she did leave him they would be no worries there.
I just don't know what to do. I hate seeing Mum so miserable. I took her to the Dr, & she's now on anti-depressants. She won't come to my house even for an afternoon as she doesn't like to leave him she says. It might hurt his feeling she says!!!!
Any suggestions - please?

[stonekicker]

tell her you love her and be there for her whatever she decides. offer to let her stay at yours, tell her you will look after her (and do it, mind!) if she decides to strike out on her own. you will have to let her make her own choices and not keep urging her to leave. and try to get her out - even if it is to go grocery shopping and you are the taxi. failing that, you could try to turn on him and tell him to shut the fuff up. who knows where that would lead? not being flippant, but sometimes it does work with obnoxious relatives if you are persistent...x