another one from clueless me

[beenee]

If a guy tries to make you laugh (constantly) does it mean that he fancies you or is he just being a clown?

[ravenhair]

Hmmm, could be either. Does he try to make everyone laugh or just you? Is he doing it as if he's hoping to impress you or get some other favourable reaction out of you? Is he accompanying this with any other flirtatious behaviour? Maybe we should consult the Flirtmeister, sft42, for his advice . . .

[rja211077]

As a bloke I can exclusively reveal that he almost certainly fancies you.

[wildwood]

Oh dear, I could be in trouble here... I like to make everybody laugh, women as well as men.
There is so much misery in the world, a little light hearted fun seems the best way to lift people's spirit.

[sft42]

well there's this irish guy who walks into a bar and says......no seriously, i have always used humour as an icebreaker not being very good at the whole chatting up malarky but some guys are just a laugh if it's one guy your asking about and not just a general query then why don't you take the initative and ask him if he'd like to go out for a meal or similar, if he does like you he'll be so happy and relived you've took the lead you'll have him eating out of your hand. BUT i'm sad now i thought i had used my charms to good effect on you :>( still i'll see you at the convention anyway (new boyfriend or not)

[boognish76]

There's a dead cert way of telling if a bloke fancies you - he asks you out! Regardless how how much he makes you laugh if he doesn't pluck up the nerve to ask you out then he can't be seriously interested in you. JMO.

[bobbobley]

I spend as much time as possible making people around me (men and women) laugh. if I like someone I joke around with them but this doesn't mean that I fancy them - I guess a part of it is a flirtatious thing but no more than that. sft42 best thank his lucky stars I can't make the convention as I reckon I'd be competing big style for the flirtmeister title!!

[Chinajan]

Yes. But if he is anything like Colin out of the Fast Show, please try to resist.

[beenee]

thanks einstein, i must admit boognish's answer got me a bit upset. im just trying to understand the mating game, that's all. sft42 - thanks for the views and dont worry - im just getting an education here ;o)

[sft42]

Boog certainly doesn't speak for the majority of men. some may have the confidence to just ask straight out but a LOT of guys will be very shy about dating, rejection is a terrible thing (believe me i know) and it's a burden being expected to do the chasing which is why i suggested taking the lead. and goody beenee i'm still in with a chance then am I? i await our meeting next march with baited breath and each day seems to drag until then like the endless ebb and flow of the tides (is that flirty enough simon?).

[boognish76]

I'm not saying he doesn't fancy her, I'm just saying that if a fella fancies a woman and they're both available but he doesn't ask her out then how 'interested' can he be? And I don't speak for any men because I'm not one.

[boognish76]

beenee - I didn't mean to upset you. I'm just saying don't spend a lot of time worrying about if he fancies you or not because, like you say, he could just be being a clown. Just relax, be yourself, and if he does fancy you it will all come good in the end.

[snotmonkey]

why dont you ask him? or plant a big fat kiss right on face then say do you think i'm sexual curry? atleast you'll know where you stand.

[Janetx]

My husband NEVER asked me out, but here we are, still together 29 years later.

[bobbobley]

aye, that'll do paul, you silver-tongued cavalier.

[Horse]

beenee, the dude likes you ok. He's yours if you want him. Go girl!