FAO tamborine

[sqad617]

Tambo,

Hope you don't mind me straying from the nostalgia thread, but not everyone is interested.

In answer to your question, I was told when I was 16yrs old, that my sister was my biological mother and by then she was married with two children of her own. Also my granddad had died that very same year so I continued to live with "mother" until I left to go to med. School. Looking back, once at Uni. There was everything there for me, studies, sport and a good social life, giving me no reason to go home and I probably went home half a dozen times in six years.

There was no bonding because she never played a part in my life and after I qualified, she emigrated to Australia with her family�.which did not include me.

About 15yrs ago, I sent her a ticket to meet me and mrs sqad in Bankok and we spent two weeks in Thailand�..mrs sqad bonding, but not me.

Never met my father, but spoke to him on the phone, but he didn't wan t to know���..and I would have probably done the same in his situation. He married, but couldn't have children and I was always a bone of contention between him and his wife.

He died four years ago.

Tambo�you how ols were you when you adopted your sisters child, were you married at the time or have you subsequently married.

You bonded, because you lived with her and that made her your mother in her eyes.

How old was she when you told her?

[chinadog]

Sorry to butt in sqad. My brother 10 years younger than me is really my nephew. My sister had him when she was 17,the dad did'nt want to know so my parents took over. My sister left her baby and ran off to london and even though she came home and later settled with someone else her son never ever called her mam. To him his parents were my parents. Oddly enough his bioligical dad asked to speak to him about 3 years back,he was dying with cancer but my brother refused. He still says he had one set of parents,mam and dad. I'll get off now.

[sqad617]

chinadog.....no problem.

I can empathise wth him but I do think that if my dad wanted to speak to me, I would have done so for my fathers sake.

[Schutzengel]

Hello Sqad. Sorry for chipping in here, but I read your other posts where you felt no one was interested. I found it upsetting that your childhood was so different from my own.
Not to intrude any further, I'm going to post a message for you in Family Life which is a much quieter category. Regards. Schutz.

[sqad617]

Thanks Schutz.

[tamborine]

Hi sqad, I was 15 unwed-with parents, when sis (3y elder) left baby to work away. Sis' babe grew knowing her real mother thru birthday/xmas pressies. Sis took 6y d'ter when she wed but t'was brief as her hubby didn't bond. I had wed by this time and d'ter was boarded in school nearby to spend hols etc with me - till 17. D'ter wed at 18 from sis's home. Now d'ter is 45 (with 3 kids) and argues with sis & I'm 'peace-maker' between them. Sis dreads being left 'in care' of d'ter altho sis has 2 younger kids whom she fairs well with. Seems to be a 'battle front' in sis' home that spills over to mine.