Trouble with my 18 year old daughter

[lil123]

My 18 year old daughter still lives at home with me. Me and her dad are divorced as he was very violent.
She keeps going to him and telling him my private business as we have been separate
for 2 and half years now.
When she does this he sends texts threatening me as he still as contact with our 3 year old son.
I am on the verge of kicking her out as she does lots of other stuff likes has people in my home I don't want here while I am out at work etc.
I have built a great life now for me and my son and have a lovely boyfriend.
Please can anyone give any advice as she will end up out on the street as I can't be threatened like this anymore off her dad.
I had to flee from him 2 and half years ago into a refuge.
I know that my life would be so much better without her here but i feel so guilty if I just kick her out.
She is working full time and on good money

[ladybird49]

Show her the door ! does she know / care what youve been through with him? think of your little one and yourself , she sounds awful...

[sqad617]

She either lives under your roof abiding by your rules, or she goes.

Simple as that.

I have left you a message under,,"Good morning"

[josaphine32]

Can you not find a rented room in a shared house somewhere, there must be notices in local paper or shop windows, I Know kids are a pain in the @rse, But I would find her accomodation if you are not happy with her staying at home, as you say she is working so can afford to pay it,

[lil75]

Its easy for everyone to say kick her out, but at the end of the day, she is your daughter.....seen as she obviously has some sort of relationship with her dad, why cant she go and live with him?

I have been in a similar situation to you, and I look back now and think, the man was just a bully, much the same as yours, rise above this man, and if you have to, change your mobile number, he obviously thinks he scares you by sending these texts, I wouldnt let it bother you, he sounds like an arse

[lil75]

Also, I know what its like to flee a man like that, and the years of grief are hard to shake off, but trust me when I say that ignorance is the best way to handle it, dont get into any arguements with him, and let him threat, no good threatening when theres knowone to listen to it eh!

[lil123]

Fantastic advice Lil75.
Thank you xx

[debbie123]

10 yrs ago i went through the same thing as your going through now,my ex was so nasty,that when i did find someone nice my daughter who was 16 at the time went to the extreame of blackmailing me against him,saying if i didnt get her this and didnt let her do this she would run back and tell my ex lies just so he would still give me greif,and for a while i used to give into her as i was so scared of him,i spent 9yrs of hell.but i decided one day that enough was enough,i told her to get out,and she was only 16yrs old,but it was the best thing i did.i cried a few weeks ,not knowing who she was with,and what she was doing,but it didnt take long when she came round and said sorry for hurting me,my daughter,and me get on great,i love her to bits and now shes a big women,and stands on her own two feet,please stand strong and be cruel to be kind .you will both be better for it in the end.xx