does not detecting a heartbeat at approx 7-8 weeks mean that i am not expecting anymore? please help, confused and sad

[hopefulone]

Hi,

I am new to this forum but I have joined because I desperately need an answer.

I am pregnant with my first baby and I found out unexpectedly only one week ago after taking two pregnancy tests at home.

I am just married (six months) and it has been completely unexpected but great news for both of us. I had been on the pill but my pill free period had overran by a few days.

I have thrown myself into buying baby books, doing everything I should be doing and avoiding the don'ts. I haven't had any bleeding and my bump seems fine!

I booked myself into a private 'viability' scan today because I wasn't sure exactly how old the baby was and if it was ok, I was worried about the contraceptive and constipation tablets taken before finding out.

However at my scan, the scan guy told me he could not find a heartbeat! He said that I had a retroverted uterus but said the baby is not alive anymore due to not being able to find a heartbeat!

I was devastated because it doesn't feel like I have lost my little angel at all.. but then when I went on the net, I found lost of reports from women who cannot find a fetal heartbeat till about 10-12 weeks especially those with a retroverted/tilted uterus?

Should I go ahead and have a termination which I don't want to do, but according to the doctor, the sooner is better. Or should I go for a second opinion and wait and see, or am I being a dreamer?

The measurements were as follows (not sure what everything means!)

gestational sac present 22.7 mm
yolk sac present 7.2
embryo present
fetal heart action absent
gsd volume 5.5 ml
CRL 13.7 mm

I would be so grateful if someone could tell me what to do and whether my baby is gone or not?

thank you so much for your help, i would appreciate any assistance!

[K82]

Hi Hope,

How did the scan go today? Is all as you hoped? x

[fingerscross]

hi, i went through all this when i had my son , they booked a dnc for me and everything, when i got there i couldnt go through with it an demarnded i had a scan 10 days later, i think because they felt sorry for mr they agreed, only to find out when i did go to the scan my baby was seen so tiny i couldnt see it but we saw a heartbeat to, i was amazed. The sad thing is im going throgh it again and arnt to sure if when i go back next thursday i will be so lucky, im 7weeks and 2 days and my scan 6 weeks 5 days showed no baby or heartbeat ???