Looking into other people eyes

[Little Lady]

Do you find this uncomfortable if you do this for more than a few seconds? I find i can only do this to collegues for a certain amount of time till i glance away then look again how odd. Though i can do this with partners for an age. Is this to do with your relationship with that person do you think?

[Otrere]

In my job I have to make eye contact with the customer. I hated it at first but now have got used to it. Practice makes perfect as they say!

[goldenmonkey]

i never know how long to look for. especially in interviews. they say eye contact is good so i try and hold eye contact even though it feels uncomfortable. i worry so much about the eye contact and looking attentive that what they're actually saying passes me by! doh. i mean do you look away when you speak or when they speak? and where do you look when you look away? down, to the side, up??? i used to look sort of sideways and down but then someone picked up on it and told me it looked rude. however they didn't tell me what i should do instead!

[stoogmeister]

I'm glad I'm not the only one with this problem. I can never keep eye contact for more than a few seconds, but I'm never sure where else to look. I don't want to appear uninterested or shifty but I don't want to overdo it either. That might make me look weird. I'm shy and definitely self conscious which is probably the main reason, but at least I'm not alone :-)

[GirGirl]

Apparently,during a normal conversation,we spend 40% of the time making eye contact but psycho (and socio) paths maintain eye contact for over 85% of the time!!!

I do think that for most people tho' it's a matter of your relationship...

Or if yr tryin to tell porkies ;)

x

[lizzierose]

I find it difficult to look into peoples eyes, although i do kinda look at them. i usually label people who look straight into my eyes as a bit intense, or in the case of certain men i fancy them coz it feels like they're really listening to you, of the two men who I've rather liked, partly due to this reason, that i can remember, one was really lovely and the other was a sociopath. so there you go!

[AndrewHunt]

I can't trust people who don't make eye contact with me.