where do i satnd

[julianrudder]

hi i am a 33 years old man and i have a 10 year old son whos mother wont let me see him, i have had contact with him every day and so have my family up and till just before christmas he usally gose on hoilday with my parents every year , he wants to see us and stay over during the week and at weekends but his mother says that its not fair on his younger brother that is not mine to be at home by himself so now i cant see him at all and me and my son are suffering i think this is not fair on my son who i think is at an age where he can say when he wants to see me and if he wants to go home or not i cannot talk to her as she just shouts and screams she is very unreasonable.
where do i stand and what can i do have been told that i have no parental reasonpability as he was born before 2003.

[Schutzengel]

If your name is on your son's birth certificate, you can apply to the courts for parental responsibility. If this is granted you can then apply for joint custody, or agreed access. This might ease the situation somewhat.

[pink-kittens]

Bloody mothers who play with their children in this way need shooting!
This is awful, you have every right to see your son as does he to see you but if you were not married then no, you don't have automatic PR, sadly. As Schutzengel says tho, if you are on the birth cert you can make an application for it.
See a solicitor to advice and possible action although you may want to try mediation first - why has she suddenly stopped visitation?

[terambulan]

You can access him at school.

Separating siblings and showering 'the chosen one' with attention to the detriment of other siblings splits siblings and builds resentment among them. Can't you expand your care & love to your son's brother? Understand that mothers love their children equally and, since you are part of this family, learn to spread your love or continue to suffer.

[Beanmistriss]

Thats a bit unfair ^^^^. So if she decides to pop out another one he should have to love and care for that one too? Mothers may love all their children equally but that doesn't mean that their multiple fathers should love all the other dads kids!! Why should he only be able to see his child at school because she was irresponsible enough to have another child by someone who didn't give a toss?

Go and see a scolicitor who can hopefull make sure that you and your son enjoy the relationship you deserve! Good luck

[Postdog]

I'm really no expert, but I am sure I recall instances where the views of the child (if of a certain age, which yours is) are considered in court, so if it comes to that, it can only be a good thing.

[Debs28]

Im not an expert either but as your son was born before Dec 203, you only get parental responsibility if your name is on the birth certificate or you were married.
Have you considered applying to the court for a parental responsibility order? You would need to show the court how commited you are, why you want an order (ie you want access but your ex is refusing it) and the attachment between you and your son. The court can request a report to be made on your son taking into consideration his thoughts, wishes and feelings.
Try not to get into heated rows with your ex though - she could use it against you if you chose to go down the court route.