Have you ever been disowned?

[Bbbananas]

My mum completely disowned me once in Boots in about 1979. Never mind genes & all things maternal - she turned her back on me & pretended she hadn't seen me when I knew darn well she had.
Any Why? Because I was in my 'scruff' phase & I had jeans with holes in the knees, a brown duffel coat & a canary yellow sweatshirt that had emblazoned on it "Virginity is like a bubble - one prick & it's gone forever".

I know what she was thinking "Why can't she be more like her sister - and wear skirts and be smart?".

It has had a profound effect on my life.

[CAJ1]

Both my parents disowned me. My dad drunk all the time and my mum did as she was told. I walked out when I was 15 one day because I couldn't stand being hit and watching my mum being beaten up anymore. When I realised I actually had no where to go I went home but my dad wouldn't let me in and stood in the window with his middle finger stuck up at me. I spent 2 weeks in January sleeping rough as I had no where to go, the police picked me up and took me home where they were told I wasn't wanted. I ended up being fostered and my parents moved house without telling me. Nearly 10 years on I still do not know where they are, where my older brother or younger sister are.

[4getmenot]

:-( its true, cried my little heart out

[redcrx]

oh CAJ thats just awful!

[sqad617]

Disown me? never.........my mother was "rite" proud of her little b@stard. My Dad? never met him as he disowned me at birth.

[CAJ1]

I got over it redcrx and re-built my life without them (not to say I don't ever wonder about them). As they say, you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends :o)

[Bbbananas]

LOL sqad.
:-( CAJ - so glad you got on with your life though.

[Joy11]

Hi CAJ pet, hows that b.f of yours, not long now till he's home I hope x

[CAJ1]

Hi Joy, he got back at the start of April and I just enjoyed a lovely weekend away with him. Its lovely to have him back again and he seems to appreciate me so much now lol! One day (hopefully) he'll marry me and we'll have our own family :o)

[4getmenot]

jeez caj that makes me being left in mcds not so bad afterall

[Joy11]

that will be a lovely fairy tale,,, can we all come, we love a good party lol

[CAJ1]

Yes, you're all invited...date TBC lol! I couldn't be much happier at the minute so all is good...

[NoMercy]

Hey CAJ1 - I've been thinking about you !! How did the reunion with the bf go??? xx

[Bbbananas]

Can I just interject?!!!!
rinkins - you can have it if I can find it. It would only have been a size 10 - no way could I get my boobs in that now! It will be a little faded - a bit like an old washed duster.

I loved it. (Mother didn't). If I had lived at home at that time, she would have "had an accident with the iron on hot" - luckily I had well left home by then. Hee Hee.

[CAJ1]

Hi NoMercy

It was so romantic, like in films! I wore a pretty dress to the airport (I'm sure everyone else was wondering why lol!). His granny told me I looked a million dollars, bless her. I was soooo nervous and I cried when I saw him and we had the biggest hug ever and he told me I looked very nice. Everyone in the airport seemed to be watching! When we got home he said he had done a lot of thinking while he was away and thought I was brilliant :o)
Then we went away for a long weekend in Paris, he treated me so much and made me feel really special xx

Sorry for taking over your post sallbananas x

[crazycathy2]

Ohh CAJ1 - which dress did you pick - remember you posting them on here - must be lovely to have him home.

My home life was abit like yours but I didn't leave til I went to uni. Funnily enough my hubby had much the same childhood but we are in contact with his mum as much as anything so our kiddiwinks have a grandparent but we never leave her alone with them

[CAJ1]

I ordered both crazycathy and returned them both because neither of them were right lol! After all that too! I ended up wearing a strapless dark brown dress which was knee length with flower print on it (it was pretty) and I wore brown wedges with a cork bottom to them. it is lovely to have him home.

I think more kids than we realise have a bad upbringing and I can't for the life of me understand why. I couldn't imagine having kids and doing the same to them as my parents did to me xx