Losing our parents

[coccinelle]

Do we ever get over losing our parents and loved ones? I lost my father 9 years ago and my mother 3 years ago and here I am still having a bit weep over why they had to go..... I suppose there are times that other people's presence just doesn't fill what they did in our lives and we miss them so much.

[tiggerblue10]

I haven't gone through this yet but I am dreading the day it happens.

I feel like this about my grandparents though. I wish I could tell my grandmother how much I loved her before Alzhiemers took over her life.

My family and I visit the cemetry every year on the anniversary of my grandfathers death and my mum always cries even though its been nearly 20 years. Its a natural emotion.

[NoMercy]

I lost my younger brother 5 years ago and still miss him now.

I don't remember my father either. However, I am unbelievably close to my mother and if I lost her, I don't know how I'd cope.

xx

[coccinelle]

Thank you so much for all your supportive answers. I feel a lot better today but was feeling rather down and miserable yesterday.
Yes I know that it's all part of life but it's so difficult at times especially when you'd like a little chat now and again and can't...

[Greedyfly]

I don't think we do. My father died when I was 15 and it may have something to do with the situation in how he died but it stays with me still after 10 years. I admit we were not very close and tbh he wasnt a saint but I do miss him & I suspect I always will. The thing I hate most is anniversarys and fathers day - its awful. I have learnt to deal with it over time but it doesnt stop you wishing it hadnt happened. Hope you feel better soon.

[marval]

I don't think you ever totally get over it. I Iost my father five years ago, I still miss him. It is much harder now because I lost my mother this February. It seems like I am still grieving for both of them. I have good moments then I look at their photo and get tearful. Hopefully you will be able to move on, but the loss will always be there a little.

[coccinelle]

Thanks again for your support. Yes, losing both parents is so hard as you just feel so lonely; it's as if the roof's been removed and you're exposed... even our own families can't bridge that gap.

[pfabc123]

Hi coccinelle
I lost my brother when he was 41 and my mother when she was 46. They were both amazing individuals who brought much joy in to many peoples lives. Evereytime i think of my mum and brother i remember the good times and the smiles etc etc and their sense of humour and that enables me to turn a negative thought in to a positive one. Hope you start to celebrate their lives soon rather than keep mourning them.

[Dollychris]

My Dad died 5 years ago and I still miss him terribly as I adored him and he was such a wonderful man. I consider myself so fortunate to have had such a lovely father and try my best to remember all the good times. I'm glad that I'm not the only one who still cries a lot when I think about him. I suppose we are all different but at least when I hear others feel the same it makes me feel a bit better. I hear people talk in timescales and just cannot help but miss him as much now as I ever have. I'm not alone though it seems and that is a comfort.