the fathers involvement

[lisyjj]

I,ve recently found out i,m pregnant with my ex-boyfriends baby ! Do i have to name him on the birth certificate and if so what rights does he have as the father .He is threatening to file for full custody and making a series of threats towards me

[tiggertan]

Hi, in a word no. He has to be there at the time to have his name on the birth certificate. You can choose whatever surname you like. He needs to take a step back if you've only just found out and let you get used to it!
If he keeps threatening you, inform the police.
Good luck.

X.

[ojread2]

tigger is right, you do not have to name him on the BC, however, you should do what is best for the baby and that would be to be as amicable as possible with its dad. One way to do that is out his name on the BC.
Why would you not want his name on it anyway? That's very selfish of you

[Velvetee]

Doubt he'd get full custody anyway.

[ummmm]

He won't get custody...full stop.

Unless he can prove that you're an unfit mother...but you have to be seriously unfit for them to take a baby away from the mother.

Does he have a job?

[pinktwink]

no you don't need to name him but he can apply to the courts to be named as a joint guardian. Think of your child and whether it would be better for them if both parents were on their birth certs. Report his threats to the police

[lisyjj]

The reason i,m so concerned is he has been violent towards me in the past and do not trust his temper

[Velvetee]

Sorry, but he sounds like a Moron. Do you have any documented eveidence that he was ever violent, i.e police or hospital reports?

It sounds to me, like he's using your pregnancy and unborn child as just another way of trying to control you. You should keep your distance and if you feel he is not worthy of being put on the certificate, then don't.

[Mish-Elle]

Hi chic, i know exactly wot ur goin through. i was with my ex for a year an a half and he treated me like **** even through 9weeks of pregnancy so i left him. i met sum1 else and we've been together now a year and engaged. I hated the idea of putting his name on the birth cetificate but i finally decided that its best for ur child to be truthful n they shud know from day 1 who ther farther is but i didnt give my daughter his last name i gave her mine. he wasnt happy about this n i was even suprised he turned up for the regestering, he has rights to see the child of course but u have the desion to where they live wot school they go to wot doctor to have etc. He sounds like a total pr*ck just like my ex n he wudnt hav a chance aslong as ur looking after the baby properly. try not to worry, iv sufferd hair loss with the stress n worry of him talkin my little girl off me but i know he wudnt hav the chance to, im a great mum n the socail workers have come to my home n proved shes been looked after properly n shes loved n cared for. Keep your head high girl dont let the likes of a so called man scare u wot do they know about looking after sum1 they cant even look after themsevles for a start! dont worry! take care xx