ChatterBank3 mins ago
A White Lie, or the Truth?
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Well, recently, I made a new friend, a language exchange partner (this is an online exchange, nothing odd, I think.), who lives in San Fransisco (I live in NYC.) For the first week or two, she didn't log on Skype a lot to talk to, but after the first day, she started logging on every day to talk to me. She doesn't like typing, so I always have to use the talk feature, which I don't like doing too much (because I need to worry about grammar). But I still used to it help her with her English.
We spoke to each other until Saturday and Sunday, when she is busy because she has kids to take care of. When she logged on Saturday night, she told me that she was crying because she thought about not being able to talk to me again (I felt really bad here, even though I didn't do anything wrong.)
Today, when she logged onto Skype, I said to her, "I don't like talking about those kind of things (feelings and stuff), especially when a woman is crying because I can't deal with it." Of course, she wanted to talk using the call feature. When we did talk, she was crying for an hour or two during the conversation, and started talking about her problems (mainly husband problems, like him cheating on her and how much she misses her country because of all the friends she has there.)
You normally wouldn't find anything wrong with this, right?
But lately, she's been really... clingy, I guess. The other day, she begged me to call her, even when I was mad at my mother, so I didn't want to talk. I was in a really bad mood that day, but she continued asking to call (saying things like, "just two minutes" or "just one minute"). I finally got annoyed, and asked her ot leave me alone for a little awhile. (this is the day before Saturday, when she logged on and said she was crying.)
I don't know what I should do. I'm no expert in love, but it feels like she sees more than a friend (asking for pictures, telling me to call her name, suggesting that she
We spoke to each other until Saturday and Sunday, when she is busy because she has kids to take care of. When she logged on Saturday night, she told me that she was crying because she thought about not being able to talk to me again (I felt really bad here, even though I didn't do anything wrong.)
Today, when she logged onto Skype, I said to her, "I don't like talking about those kind of things (feelings and stuff), especially when a woman is crying because I can't deal with it." Of course, she wanted to talk using the call feature. When we did talk, she was crying for an hour or two during the conversation, and started talking about her problems (mainly husband problems, like him cheating on her and how much she misses her country because of all the friends she has there.)
You normally wouldn't find anything wrong with this, right?
But lately, she's been really... clingy, I guess. The other day, she begged me to call her, even when I was mad at my mother, so I didn't want to talk. I was in a really bad mood that day, but she continued asking to call (saying things like, "just two minutes" or "just one minute"). I finally got annoyed, and asked her ot leave me alone for a little awhile. (this is the day before Saturday, when she logged on and said she was crying.)
I don't know what I should do. I'm no expert in love, but it feels like she sees more than a friend (asking for pictures, telling me to call her name, suggesting that she
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You need to detach yourself from this woman. She needs to accept responsibility for what's going on in her life and not put it on to you.
Be firm but fair.
I get people trying to do this to me a lot but have learned how to cope with them.
Maybe back off a bit from talking to her so much as well if it's making you unhappy
Be firm but fair.
I get people trying to do this to me a lot but have learned how to cope with them.
Maybe back off a bit from talking to her so much as well if it's making you unhappy
Sounds creepy to me.
She might be some sort of stalker.
She's emotionally blackmailing you & obviously doesn't care that you have issues of your own. If she did, she would ask you about them, but she just goes on about herself.
Truth time. You can't be held responsible for how she will feel when you let her know you want to stop all contact with her.
She might be some sort of stalker.
She's emotionally blackmailing you & obviously doesn't care that you have issues of your own. If she did, she would ask you about them, but she just goes on about herself.
Truth time. You can't be held responsible for how she will feel when you let her know you want to stop all contact with her.
Mamoru, there are some women who adore to complain,they like to look like the sufferers.They never follow any advice which could help them.They are going to change nothing in their lives, they just need somebeody to listen to them and to admire their courage, to feel sorry for them.They do not care how these people can feel constantly listening to their complaints.And at first people try to help them and when see that it is useless, start to avoid such women, and these women try to find new listeners, using them as a pillow in which it is possible to cry..In Russia we call such women energy vampires.Stay away from such women!!!
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