i could do with some help please

[GINGER BIRD]

here goes!!!
somethings that my other half did a while ago just didnt add up and i suspected he had been seeing someone else.
i confronted him about it and he insisted that they were just friends who e mailed and texted each other .
i cant get over this and feel that he has betrayed me. by keeping things from me . i dont mind the fact that he was friends with this person its the lying i cant stand. he reckons that i should just forget it and move on with our relationship im trying to do this but i cant stop thinking that everything he is telling me is a lie. he understands that i am hurting but doesnt know why i cant drop it.will it get easier? i really hope so just wondering if anyone else had been inj this position

[dot.haukes]

that's exactly my reaction vibrasphere

[paraffin]

G.B.:

If your "other half" is your boyfriend, bin him, he's cheating on you.

If he's your husband, either fight for him if you think he's worth fighting for, or also bin him if you can't forgive him.

Either way, the greatest and most precious asset in a relationship is trust. If and when it goes, the problems set in. And when someone's other half is keeping any kind of relationship with someone of the opposite sex a secret, they're not doing it just to p!ss you off, they're doing it because they're HAVING it off!

[sara3]

me too. we're all redheads on here!

[sara3]

oh, hang on.. I don't have a husband :o/

[andy-hughes]

It's always difficult to comment on issues like this because we don't know any of the parties involved, and the potential scenarios are endless.

the point is, this has hurt you, and is making you continue to be unhappy.

Your boyfriend wants to draw a line - which is human nature, he wishes you weren't upset, but the fact is that you are, so it has to be addressed.

I would suggest he goes to Relate with you, and you both explore this with professional help. It can't hurt.

[VoodooPrince]

Yeah i agree with ya spacecase,gingers are creepy looking ba$tards........................remember the waltons!

[haysi06]

Hi Ginger Bird, love the name. Regardless of whether its internet or real life once he starts lying to you, get rid. x

[piggynose]

i just wonder how he would�ve reacted if he found out you had a male friend?? jealously is so dangerous and insecure. i am a man living in a spanish city. the interesting thing is i, can only speak to women, as i still cannot speak spanish, hence i have at last count 10 female friends, and the�re all pretty, you see men speak almost no english or cant hold a conversation in english. so yes i am having a great time, but occasioanally there is the odd jealous moment

[sqad617]

piggy...ahhh! but are you married or have a partner?

[tamborine]

forget it and move on

do that.....and move onto someone else - he aint worth it!

[sqad617]

tambo.........might be the right answer, but that would mean divorce.

If every wife in those circumstances took that route, then marriage would be gone as an institution and women do not want that in the main.

[piggynose]

sqad617, i�m kind of between birds. the 2 i see the most, i cannot make my mind up which one to settle down with. the 1 i live with is solvent, which is helpful, as i dont make much money here over the summer, i live in spain. but i fancy the other one more, but shes always skint. its a dilemna i�ve never faced in my life. and i cannot find a solution.