does he care?

[baggysenior]

On sunday my sister in law announced she was pregnant much to everyones delight, but i am ashamed to say i felt both elated and sad because my partner does not want any children(he has had 3 children from his ex wife and then had a vasectomy)and i crave a child, he said he'd never forget the sacrifice i had made in order to be with him. hes always sending me texts saying i miss and love you etc, but on sun i was quiet as my mind was ticking over, he was shattered after having hardly any sleep and playing tennis all day with his kids. i explained to him why i'm a little preoccupied and thought he understood. After we got back from watching a film at the cinema at 11.30pm(which we held hands throughout, the film) he announced he wasn't going to stay over at mine because my 'distance and silence'' had made him too angry and i would have to wait to speak to him tomorrow to discuss it. i apologised profusely and then asked if he loved me he said 'i don't know i'm too angry right now.' I have a little self respect and i have given up and accepted many of his differences. i told him it was over, (i'm not going to let him keep me hanging) he looked at me and just said we will speak tomorrow. i am sure he thinks its a case of me wanting to be chased. i turned off my phone that night and havent had it on since. Why would a man who described me as his dream girl and love of his life suddenly turn on me? and when should i turn my phone on? i've such low self esteem that i need some opinions from other people. In my head its over but it hurts like hell.Apologies for babbling on. Many Thanks

[redcrx]

hes angry because you were quietly thinking about the sacrifice you made to be with him?

Turn your phone back on and wait and see what he says.

[zzxxee]

why post and say you crave a child when in zacmasters link you have posted you have a baby what are you an attention seeker??

[baggysenior]

no i most definitely am not an attention seeker. i have a child with my ex husband who left me 4 months after her birth. I'm not looking for sympathy or attention just some honest opinions. I just have difficulty accepting my fertile life is over at 32, i loved him and i wanted a child with him. I didnt say its over easily, or just because i was throwing a tantrum, there are several other issues.

[zzxxee]

ok baggy i appologise two threads getting mixed up
i would definatley have a heart to heart with your partner and try to work out if your desire for a child outweighs the love you have for him. One thing is for certain nothing will be resolved if you give each other the silent treatment good luck in your decision x

[christina69]

sometimes (in my experience) men cant handle being mad or upset & having any kind of conversation...unless it's a yelling match.

give him time... turn your phone back on...let him call you.