Body & Soul0 min ago
Cultural thing - but not very nice
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I witnessed today a woman , standing on the pavement , with baby in hands , toddler tugging at her skirt - pushchair on pavement , and some bags .
After a while a car ( not a mini cab ) pulls up - stops some 10-15 metres from where she was standing , because of other parked cars .
This woman had to struggle to the waiting car with baby and toddler plus bags ; put them in the car , then go back to fetch the push chair and bring it to the car .
All this time the driver of the car just sat in the driver's seat and did not lift a finger to assist the woman .
I have observed this type of occurrance on a number of occasion , and is particular to a an ethnic group .
Is this just laziness by the males oris this a cultural thing ?
Either way it is not pretty
After a while a car ( not a mini cab ) pulls up - stops some 10-15 metres from where she was standing , because of other parked cars .
This woman had to struggle to the waiting car with baby and toddler plus bags ; put them in the car , then go back to fetch the push chair and bring it to the car .
All this time the driver of the car just sat in the driver's seat and did not lift a finger to assist the woman .
I have observed this type of occurrance on a number of occasion , and is particular to a an ethnic group .
Is this just laziness by the males oris this a cultural thing ?
Either way it is not pretty
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As you may know,I am 86 and my wife Elie is 85,so I think we qualify as elderley for "special" seats on trains and buses?
We used to ask youngsters (and by that I mean people under 60) if we could sit down.
From white British people we either get the seats grudgingly,or we get a mouthful of abuse!
We have now stopped asking.
Imagine my surprise the other week,a very nice (not young herself) asian lady came half way down the bus to offer her seats(she was with her husband) to us.
So I don't think it's cultural,there are selfish men (and women) in all cultures.
Non~British ctultures seem to have bred into them more respect for the old/elderly.
We used to ask youngsters (and by that I mean people under 60) if we could sit down.
From white British people we either get the seats grudgingly,or we get a mouthful of abuse!
We have now stopped asking.
Imagine my surprise the other week,a very nice (not young herself) asian lady came half way down the bus to offer her seats(she was with her husband) to us.
So I don't think it's cultural,there are selfish men (and women) in all cultures.
Non~British ctultures seem to have bred into them more respect for the old/elderly.
I have given up my seat so many time. Even a bad experience once did not stop me from doing what I believe is good. I once in the tube offered my seat to a lady who was 60 (ish). I was about 28 then and she started shouting at me instead and blamed me for thinking that she was too old to stand.
But I have forgotten that as bad experience as perhaps she was having a bad day or she was not used to of someone giving her respect. I am not really sure what ethnic group Bertiwooster is referring to but one thing I know that I am from Pakistan (originally). Although as other�s said that good and bad are everywhere but youngsters there are very quick to give up their seats to anyone one older than they are.
But I have forgotten that as bad experience as perhaps she was having a bad day or she was not used to of someone giving her respect. I am not really sure what ethnic group Bertiwooster is referring to but one thing I know that I am from Pakistan (originally). Although as other�s said that good and bad are everywhere but youngsters there are very quick to give up their seats to anyone one older than they are.
I was recently pregant and and noticed that women were generally more considerate and chivalrous than men. Now that I have had the baby and am pushing a heavy pram around, sometimes with bags of groceries hanging from my arms and shoulders I seem to get the worst treatment from young women! I suppose a pregnant woman is an object of pity but a woman with a pram just seems like a nuisance.
Just occurred to me Mr Wooster (big fan of PGW meself BTW) that I was on a cab the other day and the driver told me that wardens have started handing out tickets to cabbies on single yellows when picking up fares. Perhaps the chap you saw had been a victim of this himself and was afraid of getting out from behind the wheel.
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