Is it possible ...

[pericat]

for a violent man/woman to change. Those of you who have had experience of abuse - have you ever received an apology that you believed, that made you believe the person had changed.

[ummmm]

In some circumstances.

My friends BF hit her a few times. At the time his mother dies suddenly before getting to meet his new born daughter. I think it was grief. She left him and he promised it wouldn't happen again and it never has.

His father died when she was pregnant with the second child....he didn't have the same agreesive reaction.

It also depends why a man hits out....everyone has a breaking point and if someone keeps pushing and pushing someone...they might get a reaction they don't want.

[pericat]

And did her BF get any outside help because I don't think I could trust anybody again if they hit me. I think trust in any relationship is primary

[ummmm]

No he didn't. I think her leaving was the wake up call. This was about 12 years ago and they're a great couple.

[4getmenot]

yes the person can change but whether the other can trust again is a different question

[ummmm]

It would appear that you could do with a bit of management Dixie.

[ummmm]

That's a very horrible thing to say coming from someone who had to leave with the clothes on her back.....

[B00]

There's a line Dixie Gal, and I think you've stepped wayyyy over it.