kids

[rangersjoe]

how do you deal with a kid (9) girl who always has to have the last word???????

[boobesque]

wait for them to grow out of it and expect it 10 times worse than now when she is a teenager!

sorry but kids will be kids!

[orange-gnome]

pick your battles!!
In a few years you will be wishing that you only had that problem to worry about!!!

[Greenbhoy]

My daughter is only six but we have already decided that on her eighth birthday she is being locked in the cupboard under the stairs and is being left there until she is 30. Then we won't need to deal with back-chat, under-age drinking, boys, etc.

[chazza]

Just let her have the last word.  By trying yourself to always have the last word, you are being the same as her

[Le Chat]

My 9 yr old used to be like that. I found that a clearance of all toys(and I mean all) had the desired affect. He had to earn them back!

If he lapses now and then, his trusty lightsaber gets confiscated for a few days and if neccessary any other latest favourite thing! Seems to work - often the suggestion of it will work too, as he knows I will do what I have said!!!

[Gef]

I know many will disagree but a quick slap on the bum might do the trick. Sadly in this namby-pamby country any thought of family discipline has gone out of the window with the result that pupil behaviour in school has reached an all time low.

[curiosity]

If you know she/he always has to have the last word, don't answer .

[Cheekyteddy]

Don't argue with her. Say what you have to say and walk away. She will still mutter under her breath but ignore.

[Bexxybex123]

My arguments with Mum stopped pretty much altogether after one row which just ended with her saying 'Shut your mouth Sonny Jim!' We both cracked up and ended up on the floor crying with laughter! A tip to keep you sane though - just because she may stomp off muttering under her breath doesn't mean what you've said to her hasn't been taken into account! They do listen, just don't want to admit you're right lol.

[acw]

Please just don't say "go on then, I know you want to have the last word!".  I can still hear my mum saying it.  Used to make me stay mad at her for HOURS longer than necessary!

[mum1]

tell her if she speaks after the your last word spoken she will have to go into time out and the more often she does it the often she will have to go into time out. 

[pixiecoo]

It's their age. I have 10 year old girl (is it just the girls who do this) and they testing the boundaries and finding their way in the world. They'll grow out of it. And I agree, someone hast to have the last word, give up, otherwise it will always be you! Research some Steiner/Waldorf education on child development stages.
Love Greenbhoy's answer!!!!

[hellywellywo]

you know what?  i think the best thing to do is ignore it.  My daughter is 8 and no-one can match her for having the last word.  I've put her bed at 7pm tonight for bad behaviour and over an hour later she is still having the last word.  I am not looking forward to teenage years